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<blockquote data-quote="TeDo" data-source="post: 437498"><p>I completely agree with susiestar. It is time to take care of yourself! Your job as "the good daughter" is done, finished. Mom is an adult and it is not your JOB to take care of her or make sure she is cared for. Your job as "the good mother" is done, finished. Matt is now an adult and it is no longer your JOB to take care of him or make sure he is cared for. If he NEEDS your help at some point and he asks respectfully, give what you want to give.</p><p></p><p>Now, your only JOB is to take care of Steely and make sure she is cared for. That is all you are responsible for. Time to let go. Your jobs are done and you have done them to the best of your ability. That is all you can do and you did it.</p><p></p><p>Time to put Steely first and foremost now. I promise you the grief will pass if you allow yourself to go through it instead of getting hung up on it. That was the hardest things for me to do when my dad died. Except for the fact that my difficult child's are not adults yet, our situations sound very similar. The hardest thing to do is put ourselves first but that is what you deserve and need to do. Susiestar summed it up great: BE SELFISH!!! (I know, easier said than done)</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TeDo, post: 437498"] I completely agree with susiestar. It is time to take care of yourself! Your job as "the good daughter" is done, finished. Mom is an adult and it is not your JOB to take care of her or make sure she is cared for. Your job as "the good mother" is done, finished. Matt is now an adult and it is no longer your JOB to take care of him or make sure he is cared for. If he NEEDS your help at some point and he asks respectfully, give what you want to give. Now, your only JOB is to take care of Steely and make sure she is cared for. That is all you are responsible for. Time to let go. Your jobs are done and you have done them to the best of your ability. That is all you can do and you did it. Time to put Steely first and foremost now. I promise you the grief will pass if you allow yourself to go through it instead of getting hung up on it. That was the hardest things for me to do when my dad died. Except for the fact that my difficult child's are not adults yet, our situations sound very similar. The hardest thing to do is put ourselves first but that is what you deserve and need to do. Susiestar summed it up great: BE SELFISH!!! (I know, easier said than done) [/QUOTE]
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