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<blockquote data-quote="toughlovin" data-source="post: 511613"><p>Oh Nancy my heart aches right along with you... I have so been there. And yes it sounds like she is relapsing. Sigh I wonder if it will ever end. I think you are as strong as you think you are and you are doing well.... only thing is there is a lot of sadness and pain watching our difficult children relapse and do this to themselves. We love them and it just hurts. I have found that sometimes when things are hard, usually after some new screw up by difficult child, that i have to give myself a day to be sad, to stew, to worry, to not get anything done... and then I have to pick myself up and go on. So let today be your sad day... and then find a way to keep going on and let her own her own problems.</p><p></p><p>Recently as I have been watching my easy child daughter get her drives liscence, get more and more independence, totally rise to the responsibility I have been thinking about the natural order of things. With her it is so natural to give her more freedom, more responsibility as she gets older... and it does feel like the right order of things. My difficult child always wanted the freedom and responsibility without doing anything to earn them.... and we often gave it to him and then had to pull back. Thank goodness he is not living at home because he would be in a rage that we let her use the car when there is no way we would let him use it!!!</p><p></p><p>Hang in there. I do wish I could come over and take you out for a cup of coffee... and a shoulder to lean on.</p><p></p><p>TL</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="toughlovin, post: 511613"] Oh Nancy my heart aches right along with you... I have so been there. And yes it sounds like she is relapsing. Sigh I wonder if it will ever end. I think you are as strong as you think you are and you are doing well.... only thing is there is a lot of sadness and pain watching our difficult children relapse and do this to themselves. We love them and it just hurts. I have found that sometimes when things are hard, usually after some new screw up by difficult child, that i have to give myself a day to be sad, to stew, to worry, to not get anything done... and then I have to pick myself up and go on. So let today be your sad day... and then find a way to keep going on and let her own her own problems. Recently as I have been watching my easy child daughter get her drives liscence, get more and more independence, totally rise to the responsibility I have been thinking about the natural order of things. With her it is so natural to give her more freedom, more responsibility as she gets older... and it does feel like the right order of things. My difficult child always wanted the freedom and responsibility without doing anything to earn them.... and we often gave it to him and then had to pull back. Thank goodness he is not living at home because he would be in a rage that we let her use the car when there is no way we would let him use it!!! Hang in there. I do wish I could come over and take you out for a cup of coffee... and a shoulder to lean on. TL [/QUOTE]
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