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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 619499" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>Onbehalf, I am glad you are posting here too. I have a 24 year old son who has made many mistakes, some much worse than what you describe here. One thing I have told him is there is forgiveness. </p><p></p><p>And there is forgiveness for you. I can't guarantee what your parents will say or do right now---of course they will be angry. </p><p>But if they see honesty first and foremost, and sincere and consistent progress (not perfection) on a healthy path where you are taking responsibility for your own life, I believe there will be forgiveness in time. Of course, they love you so much. Without having children yourself yet, you can't even imagine how much they love you and how broken they have likely been over your choices. If you are in church and studying the Bible, remember the story of the Prodigal Son. </p><p></p><p>That is what we want for our adult children, that they are being honest and that they are making progress. That they are turning, and walking in a new, positive, healthy direction. Not perfect, but progress. </p><p></p><p>And first, you must forgive yourself for the mistakes you have made. Nobody gets through in life without making lots of mistakes---we don't talk about this enough, but we are all struggling in our own way. </p><p></p><p>I am encouraged by your post. I hear a lot of honesty there. That is <strong>such</strong> a good first step, onbehalf.</p><p></p><p>Suicide is not the answer. Help is. There is so much help available for people who really want it. Believe me, as a parent, I have had to get lots of help. I can't do this on my own, and quite frankly, most of us in the world need help at some time or another.</p><p></p><p>And if you have to move out of your parents' home suddenly, as someone here suggested, rent a room, share an apartment with several friends from your church or look into a halfway house If you are using alcohol to excess, realize that IS a drug and will lead you nowhere good. Some people can't drink at all, and that is just the way it is. Get help for that if you need to. </p><p></p><p>There are inexpensive ways you can live outside your parents home temporarily. Working two jobs is so good---you are keeping busy and you are being responsible. </p><p></p><p>Slow down. Get help. Be honest. Forgive yourself. Keep coming back here for support. You're not alone in this world. Blessings and prayers for you today.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 619499, member: 17542"] Onbehalf, I am glad you are posting here too. I have a 24 year old son who has made many mistakes, some much worse than what you describe here. One thing I have told him is there is forgiveness. And there is forgiveness for you. I can't guarantee what your parents will say or do right now---of course they will be angry. But if they see honesty first and foremost, and sincere and consistent progress (not perfection) on a healthy path where you are taking responsibility for your own life, I believe there will be forgiveness in time. Of course, they love you so much. Without having children yourself yet, you can't even imagine how much they love you and how broken they have likely been over your choices. If you are in church and studying the Bible, remember the story of the Prodigal Son. That is what we want for our adult children, that they are being honest and that they are making progress. That they are turning, and walking in a new, positive, healthy direction. Not perfect, but progress. And first, you must forgive yourself for the mistakes you have made. Nobody gets through in life without making lots of mistakes---we don't talk about this enough, but we are all struggling in our own way. I am encouraged by your post. I hear a lot of honesty there. That is [B]such[/B] a good first step, onbehalf. Suicide is not the answer. Help is. There is so much help available for people who really want it. Believe me, as a parent, I have had to get lots of help. I can't do this on my own, and quite frankly, most of us in the world need help at some time or another. And if you have to move out of your parents' home suddenly, as someone here suggested, rent a room, share an apartment with several friends from your church or look into a halfway house If you are using alcohol to excess, realize that IS a drug and will lead you nowhere good. Some people can't drink at all, and that is just the way it is. Get help for that if you need to. There are inexpensive ways you can live outside your parents home temporarily. Working two jobs is so good---you are keeping busy and you are being responsible. Slow down. Get help. Be honest. Forgive yourself. Keep coming back here for support. You're not alone in this world. Blessings and prayers for you today. [/QUOTE]
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