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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 433726" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Susie, my mother used to tell the story of how she disciplined my older sister for stamping her feet, by MAKING her keep stamping. She referred to it as a "dancing lesson". To tis day my sister still gets very angry when reminded of this. She found it humiliating and not at all helpful.</p><p></p><p>Jenn, your son is getting really tired out. What you describe sounds like mental exhaustion, and he just is not coping. If he fell asleep so quickly, he was physically exhausted too.</p><p></p><p>When ANY of my kids (easy child included) started school, the tiredness at the end of the day took its toll on behaviour and ability to cope. For a difficult child it's even more difficult.</p><p></p><p>What I did - I fed the kids as soon as they got home form school. As soon as they walked in the door, there would be food. The afternoon snack was actually dinner in disguise - cooked sausages (pigs in a blanket) with a plate of fruit or vegetable sticks. Then if the kids were too tired to wait for dinner, or too tired to eat, they could be n the bath and heading for bed before the rest of us ate our dinner. We had a peaceful meal; the child got to bed and to sleep; and by filling their tummies early, they were less likely to be cranky and reactive.</p><p></p><p>I wouldn't have made him get out of the bath; I would have just walked out. The rudeness, insolence etc - it's exhaustion and anxiety talking, mostly. If you react, you justify it and make it escalate. Walking away teaches him to walk away rather than escalate.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 433726, member: 1991"] Susie, my mother used to tell the story of how she disciplined my older sister for stamping her feet, by MAKING her keep stamping. She referred to it as a "dancing lesson". To tis day my sister still gets very angry when reminded of this. She found it humiliating and not at all helpful. Jenn, your son is getting really tired out. What you describe sounds like mental exhaustion, and he just is not coping. If he fell asleep so quickly, he was physically exhausted too. When ANY of my kids (easy child included) started school, the tiredness at the end of the day took its toll on behaviour and ability to cope. For a difficult child it's even more difficult. What I did - I fed the kids as soon as they got home form school. As soon as they walked in the door, there would be food. The afternoon snack was actually dinner in disguise - cooked sausages (pigs in a blanket) with a plate of fruit or vegetable sticks. Then if the kids were too tired to wait for dinner, or too tired to eat, they could be n the bath and heading for bed before the rest of us ate our dinner. We had a peaceful meal; the child got to bed and to sleep; and by filling their tummies early, they were less likely to be cranky and reactive. I wouldn't have made him get out of the bath; I would have just walked out. The rudeness, insolence etc - it's exhaustion and anxiety talking, mostly. If you react, you justify it and make it escalate. Walking away teaches him to walk away rather than escalate. Marg Marg [/QUOTE]
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