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I brought it on myself but grrr
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<blockquote data-quote="InsaneCdn" data-source="post: 433823" data-attributes="member: 11791"><p>I hear ya - the frustration of not being able to be spontaneous.</p><p> </p><p>And then someone challenged my thinking... is it really spontaneous? or, were you thinking about it ahead of time and forgot to communicate? or any number of other things?? Hmmm...</p><p> </p><p>We've discovered that most "spontaneous" things fall into two camps... either lack of planning (bad me), or wanting to "surprise" the kids.</p><p> </p><p>I keep that old army saying at the front of my brain: On the Quartermaster's Desk... "Remember: A lack of planning on your part does not constitute an emergency on my part."</p><p> </p><p>So, the answer is to ALWAYS have a plan. Including a plan for surprising the kids... in the example you give, we might have done it - but I'd have packed a picnic supper, eaten at the pool, and had the kids in bed as soon as we got home.</p><p> </p><p>I totally agree with Marg - and in this case you got a double-whammy of "tired kid syndrome" - because swimming takes A LOT of effort! So PLAN for him to be exhausted - its never as bad when you expect it and are prepared.</p><p> </p><p>(Take heart - we KNOW all this, have been doing it for 10+ years - and we STILL get caught. But at least we know what's happening when we mess up...!)</p><p> </p><p>And no, don't "stay home forever". The kids DO need this kind of stuff - and so do you. Its just "how to do it" so you don't get the negative fallout.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="InsaneCdn, post: 433823, member: 11791"] I hear ya - the frustration of not being able to be spontaneous. And then someone challenged my thinking... is it really spontaneous? or, were you thinking about it ahead of time and forgot to communicate? or any number of other things?? Hmmm... We've discovered that most "spontaneous" things fall into two camps... either lack of planning (bad me), or wanting to "surprise" the kids. I keep that old army saying at the front of my brain: On the Quartermaster's Desk... "Remember: A lack of planning on your part does not constitute an emergency on my part." So, the answer is to ALWAYS have a plan. Including a plan for surprising the kids... in the example you give, we might have done it - but I'd have packed a picnic supper, eaten at the pool, and had the kids in bed as soon as we got home. I totally agree with Marg - and in this case you got a double-whammy of "tired kid syndrome" - because swimming takes A LOT of effort! So PLAN for him to be exhausted - its never as bad when you expect it and are prepared. (Take heart - we KNOW all this, have been doing it for 10+ years - and we STILL get caught. But at least we know what's happening when we mess up...!) And no, don't "stay home forever". The kids DO need this kind of stuff - and so do you. Its just "how to do it" so you don't get the negative fallout. [/QUOTE]
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