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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 433913" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Spontaneous often is a bad idea.</p><p></p><p>husband & I went to see "We Will Rock You" and loved it. We were standing in the aisles at the end, cheering and dancing (so was everybody else in the audience). We went out to the foyer and bought the CD and played it, full volume, in the car on the way home. Then when we got home husband wanted to share his love for the new stuff with the kids, put the CD on and played it loud. "Cause it's got to be loud, to enjoy it, see... only difficult child 3 did NOT see, someone had walked into the room where he was quietly playing, put on some very loud music then tried to engage his enthusiasm. husband got cranky that his attempts to engage difficult child 3 fell apart, totally. difficult child 3 got cranky that dad was assaulting him with loud non-Queen Queen music (ie covers of his favourite band, but not the real thing). husband then got upset because his lovely, happy mood we'd shared all the way home, got blown out of the water.</p><p></p><p>it was an interesting lesson for all, really.</p><p></p><p>Increasingly, we need to plan ahead and warn difficult child 3. For example, he loves going to the mall and would try to manipulate me into going shopping for groceries, so he could go to the mall. But lately if I say, "I'm going to the mall in half an hour," difficult child 3 gets upset at the lack of notice.</p><p></p><p>Last night at bedtime I said to him, "Get to bed now, we've got a big day tomorrow, we have to go out."</p><p>He got angry with me. "Where are we going?"</p><p>"You have a therapist appointment, you got sent the reminder on your phone two days ago."</p><p>"That's not until Friday!"</p><p>"Well, son, tomorrow's Friday. Or should I say today, it's now after midnight..."</p><p></p><p>I also reminded him that we are dropping in on the MRI place to suss out their machine and so he can ask questions. The MRI is booked for Monday afternoon but he thinks he can still refuse. I don't want him to - if there is something wrong, we need to know. The alternative tests are a lot nastier. I might describe them to him as we drive along today... I had to have a myelogram many years ago, and I never want to experience that again! AND the info gained was not as good as you get with MRI. it took longer to do, was more invasive, and made me sick for weeks. After that, MRI is a breeze, it's a chance to relax for an hour or so. And it is a breeze literally, because they pump air past your face constantly. Feel the breeze, close your eyes and visualise yourself on a beach somewhere... ok, with some building work and jackhammering going on nearby...</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 433913, member: 1991"] Spontaneous often is a bad idea. husband & I went to see "We Will Rock You" and loved it. We were standing in the aisles at the end, cheering and dancing (so was everybody else in the audience). We went out to the foyer and bought the CD and played it, full volume, in the car on the way home. Then when we got home husband wanted to share his love for the new stuff with the kids, put the CD on and played it loud. "Cause it's got to be loud, to enjoy it, see... only difficult child 3 did NOT see, someone had walked into the room where he was quietly playing, put on some very loud music then tried to engage his enthusiasm. husband got cranky that his attempts to engage difficult child 3 fell apart, totally. difficult child 3 got cranky that dad was assaulting him with loud non-Queen Queen music (ie covers of his favourite band, but not the real thing). husband then got upset because his lovely, happy mood we'd shared all the way home, got blown out of the water. it was an interesting lesson for all, really. Increasingly, we need to plan ahead and warn difficult child 3. For example, he loves going to the mall and would try to manipulate me into going shopping for groceries, so he could go to the mall. But lately if I say, "I'm going to the mall in half an hour," difficult child 3 gets upset at the lack of notice. Last night at bedtime I said to him, "Get to bed now, we've got a big day tomorrow, we have to go out." He got angry with me. "Where are we going?" "You have a therapist appointment, you got sent the reminder on your phone two days ago." "That's not until Friday!" "Well, son, tomorrow's Friday. Or should I say today, it's now after midnight..." I also reminded him that we are dropping in on the MRI place to suss out their machine and so he can ask questions. The MRI is booked for Monday afternoon but he thinks he can still refuse. I don't want him to - if there is something wrong, we need to know. The alternative tests are a lot nastier. I might describe them to him as we drive along today... I had to have a myelogram many years ago, and I never want to experience that again! AND the info gained was not as good as you get with MRI. it took longer to do, was more invasive, and made me sick for weeks. After that, MRI is a breeze, it's a chance to relax for an hour or so. And it is a breeze literally, because they pump air past your face constantly. Feel the breeze, close your eyes and visualise yourself on a beach somewhere... ok, with some building work and jackhammering going on nearby... Marg [/QUOTE]
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