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<blockquote data-quote="buddy" data-source="post: 479196" data-attributes="member: 12886"><p>Hi, I wanted to comment on the martial arts thing... Or any activity that can make a child learn how to fight well. I had to stop it for my son soon after we started. For some kids it works wonders, for mine, he had no judgement when to use it, didn't get the "only in self defense" idea because he was always often in a fight or flight mode. He kicked for practice...everywhere. Some kids taught him some wrestling moves over the summer, he tried one on me when I was sitting and not expecting it...and I was choking. Even if they understand the concepts for the majority of the time, and learn amazing life philosophies, if they have impulse control problems that are truly neurological and they may not be able to control in some situaitons, I am just saying be aware. hitting a police officer during a panic situation versus seriously injuring them because they are trained fighters can be a huge difference.</p><p></p><p>Another boy he goes to school with is gifted and has Aspergers. He is now a black belt. He is very proud of his accomplishments etc. Everyone is..... but he has aggression issues and last summer he hit his Integrated Listening Systems (ILS) worker (of 4 years--they were really close/bonded) in the face and broke his nose. He felt awful about himself and he is a far greater danger to himself and others because he knows how to make his punches, kicks and other moves really do damage. </p><p></p><p>It is hard to think of / predict the future and of the challenges our kids will face, but if there is any chance of uncontrollable aggression then I am just giving you something to consider (weigh the pros and cons because obviously there are MANY pros).... I would never say dont do it....I do think that for most kids these programs teach wonderful skills far beyond the physical moves. I found the same issue with sports that encourage aggression (luckily with my son's brain injury he is not allowed to do full contact like football, wrestling and hockey).</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="buddy, post: 479196, member: 12886"] Hi, I wanted to comment on the martial arts thing... Or any activity that can make a child learn how to fight well. I had to stop it for my son soon after we started. For some kids it works wonders, for mine, he had no judgement when to use it, didn't get the "only in self defense" idea because he was always often in a fight or flight mode. He kicked for practice...everywhere. Some kids taught him some wrestling moves over the summer, he tried one on me when I was sitting and not expecting it...and I was choking. Even if they understand the concepts for the majority of the time, and learn amazing life philosophies, if they have impulse control problems that are truly neurological and they may not be able to control in some situaitons, I am just saying be aware. hitting a police officer during a panic situation versus seriously injuring them because they are trained fighters can be a huge difference. Another boy he goes to school with is gifted and has Aspergers. He is now a black belt. He is very proud of his accomplishments etc. Everyone is..... but he has aggression issues and last summer he hit his Integrated Listening Systems (ILS) worker (of 4 years--they were really close/bonded) in the face and broke his nose. He felt awful about himself and he is a far greater danger to himself and others because he knows how to make his punches, kicks and other moves really do damage. It is hard to think of / predict the future and of the challenges our kids will face, but if there is any chance of uncontrollable aggression then I am just giving you something to consider (weigh the pros and cons because obviously there are MANY pros).... I would never say dont do it....I do think that for most kids these programs teach wonderful skills far beyond the physical moves. I found the same issue with sports that encourage aggression (luckily with my son's brain injury he is not allowed to do full contact like football, wrestling and hockey). [/QUOTE]
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