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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 243453" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>Thank you both. His gal called earlier. I was trying to stay focused on answering her questions- I told her it was important for her to see his file at the courts and read the letter I sent in 2 weeks prior to this incident and to take note that the judge had agreed to hear the case in court. Also, I mentioned that the "bottleneck" had been that difficult child was on probation and that had tied my hands and it was also documented in that letter. And I told her that PO was claiming that she had not known that difficult child had been self-injuring, but, I knew for a fact that this statement was a lie- I apologized for putting it so bluntly, but I know it is.</p><p></p><p>Then, I called difficult child for a few. He seems so excited to be around other kids his age where he isn't worried about being accepted by them. It makes me think back to when all this started with him. He was in the latter years of cub scouts and had been a member of this group since 1st grade. He had done quite well and had fit in and been "one of the boys". But when he had all the pieces fall into place about his father not being in his life, he was so devestated and never acted the same again around the other scouts- who all had dads either camping with them or being leaders, etc. difficult child seemed to have such a complex, which lead the other boys to treat him differently, then difficult child would try harder by doing inappropriate and unacceptable things, and so on and so on. He's had acceptance and rejection and peeer issues since. - Ecept for the one buy who seemed like such a good friend about 18 mos ago- </p><p></p><p>Maybe he was just emotionally starving for this "social life" (aka- peer acceptance) that now he seems to be thriving on. I hope somehow thru group therapy and maturing, that he can figure out a way to accept himself a little more even when the day comes that he isn't locked up with "problem" kids (either juvy or psychiatric hospital).</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 243453, member: 3699"] Thank you both. His gal called earlier. I was trying to stay focused on answering her questions- I told her it was important for her to see his file at the courts and read the letter I sent in 2 weeks prior to this incident and to take note that the judge had agreed to hear the case in court. Also, I mentioned that the "bottleneck" had been that difficult child was on probation and that had tied my hands and it was also documented in that letter. And I told her that PO was claiming that she had not known that difficult child had been self-injuring, but, I knew for a fact that this statement was a lie- I apologized for putting it so bluntly, but I know it is. Then, I called difficult child for a few. He seems so excited to be around other kids his age where he isn't worried about being accepted by them. It makes me think back to when all this started with him. He was in the latter years of cub scouts and had been a member of this group since 1st grade. He had done quite well and had fit in and been "one of the boys". But when he had all the pieces fall into place about his father not being in his life, he was so devestated and never acted the same again around the other scouts- who all had dads either camping with them or being leaders, etc. difficult child seemed to have such a complex, which lead the other boys to treat him differently, then difficult child would try harder by doing inappropriate and unacceptable things, and so on and so on. He's had acceptance and rejection and peeer issues since. - Ecept for the one buy who seemed like such a good friend about 18 mos ago- Maybe he was just emotionally starving for this "social life" (aka- peer acceptance) that now he seems to be thriving on. I hope somehow thru group therapy and maturing, that he can figure out a way to accept himself a little more even when the day comes that he isn't locked up with "problem" kids (either juvy or psychiatric hospital). [/QUOTE]
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