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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 351041" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I hope you are asleep now. I was sort of in that not asleep but not really awake and Jess came banging into my room to use the bathroom. So now I am awake. Sigh. </p><p></p><p>I know how hard it is when they beg to come home and are crying. It is just about as hard when they are angry and demanding to come home. been there done that both ways. </p><p></p><p>I am glad you got her into the psychiatric hospital. Hopefully they will see how dysfunctional her thinking is and find a way to get through to her that she *has* to help herself or they will start advocating for medicare to pay for a long term psychiatric hospital/Residential Treatment Center (RTC). Here in OK they did NOT call it Residential Treatment Center (RTC). It was still called a psychiatric hospital stay then, and is now according to our therapist. Residential Treatment Center (RTC) is private here, or paid for through charities like the Lion's Club or those for specific "homes". NOT meaning foster care type homes, meaning large Residential Treatment Center (RTC) type places as we call them on this board.</p><p></p><p>You did the right thing admitting her. You did the right thing leaving her there today. Other than therapy visits it may be best to keep visits shorter than this one was. It does take a few days to get what she needs ironed out, esp in states where even chapstick must be treated like medicine. Ohio is like that, even in elem school and jr high the girls couldn't have chapstick or lip gloss at school because it was "medicine" and needed doctor's orders. </p><p></p><p>Be very sure to verify anything she tells you that they wouldn't "let" her have, or "made" her do, or "yelled" at her about. What your child will tell you and what really happened can be very different, as I am sure you know. But also check if the nurses seem to be "off" to you. It is a tough job so most nurses don't do it for the $$. They do it because they want to help, so most are at least competent, in my opinion.</p><p></p><p>While I don't want to tell you to not visit, you may find that you keep her from making as much progress as she can if you visit every time they have visiting hours. As much as she is dependent on you, it may be more helpful to her if you visit every other day, or if they have visiting hours twice a day then you visit once a day. This does NOT include seeing the psychiatrist or therapy. Remember that just because they have visiting hours does NOT mean you have to visit. YOU need some time to heal and become used to her being less dependent on you also. It takes time to get used to your child being more independent. NOT that you push her to be dependent, just that after having her push for dependence for so long you may need some time to adjust, Know what I mean??</p><p></p><p>I am not sure I am saying things right tonight. I don't mean her dependence is your fault, or that you shouldn't visit. Just that you shouldn't let yourself be guilted into visiting more often than can be done with-o causing problems for you. </p><p></p><p>Anyway, I am glad she is getting some intensive help. </p><p></p><p>Hugs.</p><p></p><p>Be sure to use this time to take care of YOU. If the 18yo know-it-alls give you grief then ignore them or tell them to parent their own kids. Or send them to ME. I will give them a talking to!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 351041, member: 1233"] I hope you are asleep now. I was sort of in that not asleep but not really awake and Jess came banging into my room to use the bathroom. So now I am awake. Sigh. I know how hard it is when they beg to come home and are crying. It is just about as hard when they are angry and demanding to come home. been there done that both ways. I am glad you got her into the psychiatric hospital. Hopefully they will see how dysfunctional her thinking is and find a way to get through to her that she *has* to help herself or they will start advocating for medicare to pay for a long term psychiatric hospital/Residential Treatment Center (RTC). Here in OK they did NOT call it Residential Treatment Center (RTC). It was still called a psychiatric hospital stay then, and is now according to our therapist. Residential Treatment Center (RTC) is private here, or paid for through charities like the Lion's Club or those for specific "homes". NOT meaning foster care type homes, meaning large Residential Treatment Center (RTC) type places as we call them on this board. You did the right thing admitting her. You did the right thing leaving her there today. Other than therapy visits it may be best to keep visits shorter than this one was. It does take a few days to get what she needs ironed out, esp in states where even chapstick must be treated like medicine. Ohio is like that, even in elem school and jr high the girls couldn't have chapstick or lip gloss at school because it was "medicine" and needed doctor's orders. Be very sure to verify anything she tells you that they wouldn't "let" her have, or "made" her do, or "yelled" at her about. What your child will tell you and what really happened can be very different, as I am sure you know. But also check if the nurses seem to be "off" to you. It is a tough job so most nurses don't do it for the $$. They do it because they want to help, so most are at least competent, in my opinion. While I don't want to tell you to not visit, you may find that you keep her from making as much progress as she can if you visit every time they have visiting hours. As much as she is dependent on you, it may be more helpful to her if you visit every other day, or if they have visiting hours twice a day then you visit once a day. This does NOT include seeing the psychiatrist or therapy. Remember that just because they have visiting hours does NOT mean you have to visit. YOU need some time to heal and become used to her being less dependent on you also. It takes time to get used to your child being more independent. NOT that you push her to be dependent, just that after having her push for dependence for so long you may need some time to adjust, Know what I mean?? I am not sure I am saying things right tonight. I don't mean her dependence is your fault, or that you shouldn't visit. Just that you shouldn't let yourself be guilted into visiting more often than can be done with-o causing problems for you. Anyway, I am glad she is getting some intensive help. Hugs. Be sure to use this time to take care of YOU. If the 18yo know-it-alls give you grief then ignore them or tell them to parent their own kids. Or send them to ME. I will give them a talking to!! [/QUOTE]
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