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<blockquote data-quote="confuzzled" data-source="post: 351067" data-attributes="member: 8831"><p>you did the right thing. </p><p> </p><p><em>"Honestly, I think difficult child really just had no idea what was going on"</em></p><p> </p><p>i'm not 100% convinced that this is just part of your difficult child's issues. to be really honest, that was EXACTLY our experience. (in our case, not only did difficult child 2 have zero idea of what was going on, neither did *I*). i'm not sure if its a normal part of intake, a function of a busy unit with more fish to fry, or assumptions made by adults that everyone is on the same page...but it *IS* disconcerting. i can only imagine how your difficult child feels....there is weird food, weird people, rules to follow that she may or may not know what they are, etc.</p><p> </p><p>and as staff changes shifts it becomes even more confusing and unknown.</p><p> </p><p>what helped us was i asked my difficult child what she was unsure of and i cornered the unit nurse to come explain things in front of me. in our case, they kept telling my difficult child she needed to follow the "rules" to come home, and yet no one bothered to tell her what those "rules" were....once she was clear on what they were it was much easier. i also saw with my own eyes just how much miscommunication happens on these units...so while i understand you dont want to "fix" things for yours, you do need to stay on top of things to get the maximum benefit out of her stay. (imagine getting a call from your then 10 year old asking "hey mom, wasnt i supposed to get a pill today"??, in which the answer was, most DEFINITELY you were supposed to get a pill....apparently someone "forgot" to write orders, and wth are we doing there if they dont plan to treat her???)</p><p> </p><p>maybe none of this applies as your difficult child is a bit older. and i get she needs to take some responsibility for herself. </p><p> </p><p>it *IS* incredibly difficult. but you did the right thing, and hopefully she gets some kind of benefit from being there.</p><p> </p><p><strong>get some sleep--thats an order (and look, its in writing)!</strong> <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="confuzzled, post: 351067, member: 8831"] you did the right thing. [I]"Honestly, I think difficult child really just had no idea what was going on"[/I] i'm not 100% convinced that this is just part of your difficult child's issues. to be really honest, that was EXACTLY our experience. (in our case, not only did difficult child 2 have zero idea of what was going on, neither did *I*). i'm not sure if its a normal part of intake, a function of a busy unit with more fish to fry, or assumptions made by adults that everyone is on the same page...but it *IS* disconcerting. i can only imagine how your difficult child feels....there is weird food, weird people, rules to follow that she may or may not know what they are, etc. and as staff changes shifts it becomes even more confusing and unknown. what helped us was i asked my difficult child what she was unsure of and i cornered the unit nurse to come explain things in front of me. in our case, they kept telling my difficult child she needed to follow the "rules" to come home, and yet no one bothered to tell her what those "rules" were....once she was clear on what they were it was much easier. i also saw with my own eyes just how much miscommunication happens on these units...so while i understand you dont want to "fix" things for yours, you do need to stay on top of things to get the maximum benefit out of her stay. (imagine getting a call from your then 10 year old asking "hey mom, wasnt i supposed to get a pill today"??, in which the answer was, most DEFINITELY you were supposed to get a pill....apparently someone "forgot" to write orders, and wth are we doing there if they dont plan to treat her???) maybe none of this applies as your difficult child is a bit older. and i get she needs to take some responsibility for herself. it *IS* incredibly difficult. but you did the right thing, and hopefully she gets some kind of benefit from being there. [B]get some sleep--thats an order (and look, its in writing)![/B] :winking: [/QUOTE]
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