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I defend my son I feel there is a reason for behavior
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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 619223" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>First, I am sorry for all you are going through. I am glad you are here---we teach each other and we help each other. Also, we take what we like and leave the rest. Only do what you are comfortable doing and want to do---that's a given.</p><p></p><p>One fundamental thing I always remind myself of is this:</p><p></p><p>Addiction is a primary diagnosis. That means it stands alone. There also may be mental illness in the person, thus that means there is a second primary diagnosis. But once addiction is confirmed, that has to be treated, along with the mental illness. Just saying, oh, he took drugs to self-medicate does not account for what is, today.</p><p></p><p>That is something I had to learn and be reminded of.</p><p></p><p>You have a lot of things going on. But, you can always start the process of change. Right now. Decide what you want for your life. That is the only life you can affect or have control over. Start working on your life and yourself. </p><p></p><p>Your son is your precious son. But like others have said here and throughout this site, he is always responsible for his actions. No excuses. He doesn't get a pass because of...</p><p></p><p>We are all responsible for our decisions and our actions---nobody else. If we don't like a situation, we need to start working for change, as we can. Baby steps and mistakes are okay.</p><p></p><p>A few things that might help immediately: write a gratitude list every morning. Take five minutes and do this. Be specific. It will change your life. </p><p></p><p>Keep coming back. Prayers for you and your precious son.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 619223, member: 17542"] First, I am sorry for all you are going through. I am glad you are here---we teach each other and we help each other. Also, we take what we like and leave the rest. Only do what you are comfortable doing and want to do---that's a given. One fundamental thing I always remind myself of is this: Addiction is a primary diagnosis. That means it stands alone. There also may be mental illness in the person, thus that means there is a second primary diagnosis. But once addiction is confirmed, that has to be treated, along with the mental illness. Just saying, oh, he took drugs to self-medicate does not account for what is, today. That is something I had to learn and be reminded of. You have a lot of things going on. But, you can always start the process of change. Right now. Decide what you want for your life. That is the only life you can affect or have control over. Start working on your life and yourself. Your son is your precious son. But like others have said here and throughout this site, he is always responsible for his actions. No excuses. He doesn't get a pass because of... We are all responsible for our decisions and our actions---nobody else. If we don't like a situation, we need to start working for change, as we can. Baby steps and mistakes are okay. A few things that might help immediately: write a gratitude list every morning. Take five minutes and do this. Be specific. It will change your life. Keep coming back. Prayers for you and your precious son. [/QUOTE]
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