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<blockquote data-quote="DDD" data-source="post: 116887" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>Wonderful post that illustrates how really really difficult it is</p><p>to cope with difficult children distorted thinking. I have never been a real</p><p>screamer type Mom...but...five or six years ago I just could not</p><p>control myself as difficult children behaviors were so just so "illogical" and</p><p>"inflamatory" and and and. I had used up my tank of patience.</p><p>Even in my sixties I had to fall back and regroup in order to help him get more in sync with the world. </p><p></p><p>Many of our newer CD Family members are like my GFGmom. They</p><p>really think that since THEY are the MOM that the CHILD can and</p><p>must do as they are TOLD. Learning to prioritize (baskets) and</p><p>modulate your voice and aim for a win/win is beyond hard.</p><p></p><p>You've "found the groove" and I'm delighted it worked. For me it</p><p>is helpful if I anticipate/preplan for the next round. If difficult child</p><p>does this=I can do 1, 2 or 2. If XYZ happens=my response can be</p><p>a, b or c. I do not deal well with spontaneous chaos. In fact I</p><p>don't deal well with chaos but especially unexpected chaos. So </p><p>when I am on an even keel (in the car or doing dishes or or) I</p><p>preplan. I think of it as emergency preparedness. Good luck.</p><p>DDD</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DDD, post: 116887, member: 35"] Wonderful post that illustrates how really really difficult it is to cope with difficult children distorted thinking. I have never been a real screamer type Mom...but...five or six years ago I just could not control myself as difficult children behaviors were so just so "illogical" and "inflamatory" and and and. I had used up my tank of patience. Even in my sixties I had to fall back and regroup in order to help him get more in sync with the world. Many of our newer CD Family members are like my GFGmom. They really think that since THEY are the MOM that the CHILD can and must do as they are TOLD. Learning to prioritize (baskets) and modulate your voice and aim for a win/win is beyond hard. You've "found the groove" and I'm delighted it worked. For me it is helpful if I anticipate/preplan for the next round. If difficult child does this=I can do 1, 2 or 2. If XYZ happens=my response can be a, b or c. I do not deal well with spontaneous chaos. In fact I don't deal well with chaos but especially unexpected chaos. So when I am on an even keel (in the car or doing dishes or or) I preplan. I think of it as emergency preparedness. Good luck. DDD [/QUOTE]
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