I finally did what I have wanted to do with difficult child since I found this site. He came home from school and did everything he could to push my buttons. He called me names, asked why I hate him, said his stomach hurt, and goofed around. We were trying to get what little homework he had, done. None of it worked. I kept a cool head, ignored the words and behaviors, but helped him with the work every time he sat down to do it. After 1 1/2 hours, he realized I wasn't going to force him or acknowledge the negative behaviors or yell at him. After that, it was pure heaven. WE worked on his homework for about 20 minutes and he was even willing to do a little extra work that is due next week. He wrote some of it and when he said his hand was hurting, I wrote the rest but at least he did some. Actually, he did most of the writing which was words/phrases directly from his book. I was able to avoid falling into the "battle" he was trying so hard to start. I feel great and can't wait to try it again. War avoided AND the work got done.