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<blockquote data-quote="slsh" data-source="post: 383279" data-attributes="member: 8"><p>Jena - I'm so proud of you. I know how hard it was/is, but... you are a true warrior mom.</p><p></p><p>I personally think dr. is on right track. It's about control. She needs to really understand that she *is* in control of it all - the no ipod, visit, calls, etc. Her control. </p><p></p><p>A therapist told me a very long time ago that some kids will absolutely not budge an inch until it starts to cost them too much to continue on as they are. What he failed to warn me about is the fact that some kids can withstand a simply stunning amt of misery without blinking an eye. I've got one of those - sounds like you do too. </p><p></p><p>It's time to put this on difficult child's shoulders. She needs to work the program. Her choice, her control. Don't let her get away with "they took my phone away." It's a gentle, loving, but firm "No, darling, you took your phone away by not doing what you're supposed to do." in my humble opinion, these kids who crave such total control need to understand that they are still in control even when consequences are applied. Just because things aren't going their way, it doesn't mean it's out of their control. </p><p></p><p>It is time to take care of yourself, hon. You need a whole lot of TLC. Don't worry about ex - let hospital deal with- him for right now.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="slsh, post: 383279, member: 8"] Jena - I'm so proud of you. I know how hard it was/is, but... you are a true warrior mom. I personally think dr. is on right track. It's about control. She needs to really understand that she *is* in control of it all - the no ipod, visit, calls, etc. Her control. A therapist told me a very long time ago that some kids will absolutely not budge an inch until it starts to cost them too much to continue on as they are. What he failed to warn me about is the fact that some kids can withstand a simply stunning amt of misery without blinking an eye. I've got one of those - sounds like you do too. It's time to put this on difficult child's shoulders. She needs to work the program. Her choice, her control. Don't let her get away with "they took my phone away." It's a gentle, loving, but firm "No, darling, you took your phone away by not doing what you're supposed to do." in my humble opinion, these kids who crave such total control need to understand that they are still in control even when consequences are applied. Just because things aren't going their way, it doesn't mean it's out of their control. It is time to take care of yourself, hon. You need a whole lot of TLC. Don't worry about ex - let hospital deal with- him for right now. [/QUOTE]
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