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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 549570" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>in my opinion...I think not seeing her father and your failed marriages (were any violent? Is it possible anyone sexually abused her?) has to have had a HUGE effect on her. It probably affected your boys too, but they maybe have different fathers??? and maybe have a stronger genetic constitution toward conflict and chaos. I'm NOT trying to make you feel bad. I'm simply trying to say that I feel her behavior has a lot to do with the past and that her behavior is a red flag for possibly being sexually abused. Cutting isn't really a fad for most kids. My daughter did it. So did one of my best friends. Both had been sexually abused. Both said they did it to blot out the pain. Both said it was hard to quit doing it, that it became addictive. I do not know if this "addictive" thing is the rule for most k ids who cut, but it's a red flag that something bad is going on inside.</p><p></p><p>in my opinion she needs a complete evaluation. I'd take her to a psychiatrist AND a neuropsychologist because she is getting older and teens tend to act out even worse than they did when they were little. in my opinion a therapist just isn't enough for this degree of behavior. They didn't have as much education. There isn't as much time to diagnose either because soon s he will be able to refuse to go or to take medications, if that's the plan. I think YOU should have the first session alone with the therapist or neuropsychologist and tell the person EVERYTHING about her life, what she has gone through, the good, the bad and the ugly. They do need to know all about her history, including her life. If you think her biological father had any mental health issues, it's best to tell the doctor. Even though your daughter never met her father, she carries 50% of his DNA in her and he is still with her. </p><p></p><p>If you are positive she is not using any recreational drugs, then this is a very upset, disturbed child with hormones making her even worse and she needs help. Please don't take this as a negative post. I've been through a lot myself and with my kids, and I tend to call it like I see it without sugar-coating it because in my opinion that doesn't help. Obviously you are a good mother and know your daughter needs help or you wouldn't be here. And we're here to help you.</p><p></p><p>Welcome to the board and you will get other suggestions too <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 549570, member: 1550"] in my opinion...I think not seeing her father and your failed marriages (were any violent? Is it possible anyone sexually abused her?) has to have had a HUGE effect on her. It probably affected your boys too, but they maybe have different fathers??? and maybe have a stronger genetic constitution toward conflict and chaos. I'm NOT trying to make you feel bad. I'm simply trying to say that I feel her behavior has a lot to do with the past and that her behavior is a red flag for possibly being sexually abused. Cutting isn't really a fad for most kids. My daughter did it. So did one of my best friends. Both had been sexually abused. Both said they did it to blot out the pain. Both said it was hard to quit doing it, that it became addictive. I do not know if this "addictive" thing is the rule for most k ids who cut, but it's a red flag that something bad is going on inside. in my opinion she needs a complete evaluation. I'd take her to a psychiatrist AND a neuropsychologist because she is getting older and teens tend to act out even worse than they did when they were little. in my opinion a therapist just isn't enough for this degree of behavior. They didn't have as much education. There isn't as much time to diagnose either because soon s he will be able to refuse to go or to take medications, if that's the plan. I think YOU should have the first session alone with the therapist or neuropsychologist and tell the person EVERYTHING about her life, what she has gone through, the good, the bad and the ugly. They do need to know all about her history, including her life. If you think her biological father had any mental health issues, it's best to tell the doctor. Even though your daughter never met her father, she carries 50% of his DNA in her and he is still with her. If you are positive she is not using any recreational drugs, then this is a very upset, disturbed child with hormones making her even worse and she needs help. Please don't take this as a negative post. I've been through a lot myself and with my kids, and I tend to call it like I see it without sugar-coating it because in my opinion that doesn't help. Obviously you are a good mother and know your daughter needs help or you wouldn't be here. And we're here to help you. Welcome to the board and you will get other suggestions too :) [/QUOTE]
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