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<blockquote data-quote="gcvmom" data-source="post: 268310" data-attributes="member: 3444"><p>First of all, your husband's issues are NOT your fault. Second, you need to do whatever it takes to keep you and your kids safe. If that means leaving, then do it. There is ALWAYS another choice, there is ALWAYS an alternative. There are lots of resources for women, working or not, so don't let your fear paralyze you into staying and continuing to be abused. Putting up with abuse, verbal, psychological, emotional, physical, is absolutely NOT OKAY. People will not change their behavior until they are taken out of their comfort zone, and usually that means something dramatic has to happen to change the dynamics of the situation. Maybe your leaving, whether temporary or not, is what your husband needs to wake up and see that he has a problem.</p><p> </p><p>Often men who are depressed express their emotions in the form of anger. Sad, but for many it's the only way they know how.</p><p> </p><p>But only he can make the choice to seek help. And only YOU can make the choice to help your SELF. If you are not in a safe and stable situation, there is no way you are going to be able to help your kids deal with their issues.</p><p> </p><p>I'm sorry you are going through this. Many of us have been there done that. I hope you can figure out some place safe to go so that you can figure out what you need to do. Find a women's shelter, a church, a county health department. If you have to, call the police department and ask for a list of resources in your area.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="gcvmom, post: 268310, member: 3444"] First of all, your husband's issues are NOT your fault. Second, you need to do whatever it takes to keep you and your kids safe. If that means leaving, then do it. There is ALWAYS another choice, there is ALWAYS an alternative. There are lots of resources for women, working or not, so don't let your fear paralyze you into staying and continuing to be abused. Putting up with abuse, verbal, psychological, emotional, physical, is absolutely NOT OKAY. People will not change their behavior until they are taken out of their comfort zone, and usually that means something dramatic has to happen to change the dynamics of the situation. Maybe your leaving, whether temporary or not, is what your husband needs to wake up and see that he has a problem. Often men who are depressed express their emotions in the form of anger. Sad, but for many it's the only way they know how. But only he can make the choice to seek help. And only YOU can make the choice to help your SELF. If you are not in a safe and stable situation, there is no way you are going to be able to help your kids deal with their issues. I'm sorry you are going through this. Many of us have been there done that. I hope you can figure out some place safe to go so that you can figure out what you need to do. Find a women's shelter, a church, a county health department. If you have to, call the police department and ask for a list of resources in your area. [/QUOTE]
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