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<blockquote data-quote="Suz" data-source="post: 155458" data-attributes="member: 29"><p>First of all, there is no "right" or "wrong" way to grieve. Unfortunately, I've had many losses, under many different circumstances. Once the shock of the death is over...grieving is grieving. Give yourself permission to grieve your Dad. Don't stifle it. If you stuff it down, I promise you it will backfire on you longterm.</p><p> </p><p>My Mom was sick for years, too. It still didn't stop the scary-painful-basic- sheer-animal- sound- moan escaping out of me when I was told she died. I grieved her terribly and still, many years later, miss her every day.</p><p> </p><p>You will have up days and down days. And you will have days when you are up one minute and down the next. You will be going along just fine one minute, then you'll look in the car in front of you and will see someone who looks like your Dad....or you'll overhear a conversation and someone with a voice similar to your Dad's will trigger your pain again. </p><p> </p><p>Grieving is really the most bizarre experience. And don't let anyone tell you you should be "over it" either. sheesh- if they say that it's because they've never felt the pain themselves.</p><p> </p><p>Tinamarie- your Dad would want you to smile and feel joy again. It takes nothing away from how much you loved him when you feel those moments of peace. </p><p> </p><p>Hugs,</p><p>Suz</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Suz, post: 155458, member: 29"] First of all, there is no "right" or "wrong" way to grieve. Unfortunately, I've had many losses, under many different circumstances. Once the shock of the death is over...grieving is grieving. Give yourself permission to grieve your Dad. Don't stifle it. If you stuff it down, I promise you it will backfire on you longterm. My Mom was sick for years, too. It still didn't stop the scary-painful-basic- sheer-animal- sound- moan escaping out of me when I was told she died. I grieved her terribly and still, many years later, miss her every day. You will have up days and down days. And you will have days when you are up one minute and down the next. You will be going along just fine one minute, then you'll look in the car in front of you and will see someone who looks like your Dad....or you'll overhear a conversation and someone with a voice similar to your Dad's will trigger your pain again. Grieving is really the most bizarre experience. And don't let anyone tell you you should be "over it" either. sheesh- if they say that it's because they've never felt the pain themselves. Tinamarie- your Dad would want you to smile and feel joy again. It takes nothing away from how much you loved him when you feel those moments of peace. Hugs, Suz [/QUOTE]
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