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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 362437" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>I don't get this demerit thing. From hat I understand - YOU had to sign a piece of paper, I assume acknowledging difficult child did something wrong and they have to be certain his parents know about it, hence the need to get a note signed and returned otherwise they can assume that the kid simply hid the note and lied when he said he gave it to his parents.</p><p></p><p>The teacher told you about the note, therefore removing the need for you to be told by difficult child. In other words, the spirit of the rule was kept - the parent was notified.</p><p></p><p>And in tis case - the parent failed to ensure the note was returned. The kid clearly has personal organisation issues and is now being punished first, for personal organisation issues which are part of a disability; and second, for a lapse in concentration by the parent.</p><p></p><p>Now I have to wonder - do they hold themselves to the same high standards? And are they really aware that they are punishing a child, and the child's family, for a medical condition which the child cannot help? </p><p></p><p>You can't discipline a child out of a disability. As I've said so often before, it's like punishing a blind child for failing to copy accurately from the blackboard.</p><p></p><p>I know it's the end of the school year but I would still be fighting this one. Depending on how naughty you are feeling, I would even consider turning up at the school and demanding to be put on detention for MY lapse. Also asking the teacher to serve detention with you, for their own accumulated deficits (such as failing to do their homework on Asperger's as well as this child's specific needs, plus the very unfair punishment of a child purely for being disabled.)</p><p></p><p>There is a tendency for teachers, students and parents to get school fatigue at the end of a school year. As a result, we tend to let things slide when really we should never relax our vigilance.</p><p></p><p>In other words - never stop kicking, just because it's the end of the school year. Never let the term end with a bad precedent set.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 362437, member: 1991"] I don't get this demerit thing. From hat I understand - YOU had to sign a piece of paper, I assume acknowledging difficult child did something wrong and they have to be certain his parents know about it, hence the need to get a note signed and returned otherwise they can assume that the kid simply hid the note and lied when he said he gave it to his parents. The teacher told you about the note, therefore removing the need for you to be told by difficult child. In other words, the spirit of the rule was kept - the parent was notified. And in tis case - the parent failed to ensure the note was returned. The kid clearly has personal organisation issues and is now being punished first, for personal organisation issues which are part of a disability; and second, for a lapse in concentration by the parent. Now I have to wonder - do they hold themselves to the same high standards? And are they really aware that they are punishing a child, and the child's family, for a medical condition which the child cannot help? You can't discipline a child out of a disability. As I've said so often before, it's like punishing a blind child for failing to copy accurately from the blackboard. I know it's the end of the school year but I would still be fighting this one. Depending on how naughty you are feeling, I would even consider turning up at the school and demanding to be put on detention for MY lapse. Also asking the teacher to serve detention with you, for their own accumulated deficits (such as failing to do their homework on Asperger's as well as this child's specific needs, plus the very unfair punishment of a child purely for being disabled.) There is a tendency for teachers, students and parents to get school fatigue at the end of a school year. As a result, we tend to let things slide when really we should never relax our vigilance. In other words - never stop kicking, just because it's the end of the school year. Never let the term end with a bad precedent set. Marg [/QUOTE]
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