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<blockquote data-quote="ready2run" data-source="post: 570514" data-attributes="member: 11339"><p>every year something happens to ruin christmas because of difficult child... usually it is the screaming, or the hateful 'i'm going to kill you' stuff. every year he destroys his presents. i have given up on going anywhere, having people over, having a big fun christmas morning unwrapping as a family. i had a plan in place so this year could go smoothly. so today i'm sitting at the table making a card for my parents and my two other boys, 4 and 6 start to casual discuss their experiences of being 'licked' 'kissed' and 'touched' in tickling ways by difficult child. so i'm like "WHAT? who did what to you?" so they tell me that difficult child has been approaching them and getting them to undress and licking their bottoms. husband tells me to 'just get through the holiday and then we will deal with this.' like as if i can do that! how can i do that when i can't even look at him now with out feeling overwhelming anger and disgust. so i talked to everyone individually about touching and my 6 year old tells me that i can't stop him from letting difficult child touch him because he is a good brother and wants to make difficult child happy. now apparently the police think this is normal kids playing doctor stuff and can't do anything because he is underage to get charged and he is with in an acceptable age range so they don't consider it abuse. i feel like this is my fault and i'm not sure if i'm over reacting or not but i feel sick. i knew he's done weird stuff to them before, he used to hump people and show his privates or ask them to see their privates. but it's been a while and i thought he's been making so much progress in everything this year that this was over, so over the last couple months i've been letting him play longer and longer relatively unsupervised(with me being home but not looking directly at him). i made a mistake. ugh. and i put so much work into building a bond with him and trying to trust him. now i feel like i hate him again. so 'big' alarm goes back on the doors and now what? keep raising him and having my kids around him? have him spend the rest of his life in his room? he is already 'different' that is why i have been trying to make sure he gets time with the other kids, hoping he won't grow up to kill me in my sleep or turn into a weirdo. i tried to get my parents to come get him and the don't want anything to do with him. i don't want to have christmas anymore. i want him to leave. maybe i will wake up and this will all just be a nightmare........</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="ready2run, post: 570514, member: 11339"] every year something happens to ruin christmas because of difficult child... usually it is the screaming, or the hateful 'i'm going to kill you' stuff. every year he destroys his presents. i have given up on going anywhere, having people over, having a big fun christmas morning unwrapping as a family. i had a plan in place so this year could go smoothly. so today i'm sitting at the table making a card for my parents and my two other boys, 4 and 6 start to casual discuss their experiences of being 'licked' 'kissed' and 'touched' in tickling ways by difficult child. so i'm like "WHAT? who did what to you?" so they tell me that difficult child has been approaching them and getting them to undress and licking their bottoms. husband tells me to 'just get through the holiday and then we will deal with this.' like as if i can do that! how can i do that when i can't even look at him now with out feeling overwhelming anger and disgust. so i talked to everyone individually about touching and my 6 year old tells me that i can't stop him from letting difficult child touch him because he is a good brother and wants to make difficult child happy. now apparently the police think this is normal kids playing doctor stuff and can't do anything because he is underage to get charged and he is with in an acceptable age range so they don't consider it abuse. i feel like this is my fault and i'm not sure if i'm over reacting or not but i feel sick. i knew he's done weird stuff to them before, he used to hump people and show his privates or ask them to see their privates. but it's been a while and i thought he's been making so much progress in everything this year that this was over, so over the last couple months i've been letting him play longer and longer relatively unsupervised(with me being home but not looking directly at him). i made a mistake. ugh. and i put so much work into building a bond with him and trying to trust him. now i feel like i hate him again. so 'big' alarm goes back on the doors and now what? keep raising him and having my kids around him? have him spend the rest of his life in his room? he is already 'different' that is why i have been trying to make sure he gets time with the other kids, hoping he won't grow up to kill me in my sleep or turn into a weirdo. i tried to get my parents to come get him and the don't want anything to do with him. i don't want to have christmas anymore. i want him to leave. maybe i will wake up and this will all just be a nightmare........ [/QUOTE]
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