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<blockquote data-quote="buddy" data-source="post: 570821" data-attributes="member: 12886"><p>Im goimg to share for.the sake of anyone who may have a similar issue to mine (and several peers of mine) just for the record, and again I am not saying this is true in this in this case, just adding it because there are more scenarios and I would feel terrible if even one remote person in my situation got the wrong info and support if they have a very developmentally disabled child. </p><p></p><p>Q started pretending to "lick" while imitating the dog and cat. He also wore a collar and curled up on the back of the couch or in a kennel. He also wore a leash sometimes for play. It was done in that context at first. It was clear where it started. As he grew that one part of the routine got attention. (Not that he was doing it but he'd say lick penis) and then he'd say lick your penis because as with many kids with autism he reversed pronouns continuously. It became one of his perseverative statements and of course people assumed the worst. As he got older it "naturally" morphed into a curiosity because kids explore their bodies and he already had that thought/statement. Along the line someone told him it was sexual and was abusive to say that around others. True but had I been involved I could have explained they just reinforced the thought. It became something that he could get tons of attention from (never acted on anything just said it by this time...) This is not so rare, I have had students and friends dealing with much more overt behaviors "where they practice what they learn...one from that innocent little where do babies come from" book. </p><p></p><p>It's the big picture here that makes all of this boy's behaviors, both sexually and aggressively (with the history), so concerning. There's so much and other kids are being hurt as well as animals.</p><p></p><p>I just wanted to clarify because you never know who is reading on this forum and id never say dont.take.a nehavior like.this.lightly! If its more isolated and you can trace the development its a different kind of help thats needed. Either way kids would need protecting etc. </p><p></p><p>Again to be clear, this poor guy seems sadly, terribly involved and dangerous. I'm not disagreeing at all. Just that outside of the mental health field, people don't say "why else would any child do that?" They know there are other reasons. Bottom line, one should get it professionally checked by all sides. Mental health people and social workers will immediately say abuse and once my well documented trail was shown...(I brought it up.from age 3 at.the pediatricians.) people agree its not the case. It's in his county records now to avoid someone over reacting. Even our psychiatrist who has five special needs.kids.of her own agrees that q has no signs of being abused that way and.she said that she has other clients who like q just do or say what comes to mind and need direct teaching around social rules.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="buddy, post: 570821, member: 12886"] Im goimg to share for.the sake of anyone who may have a similar issue to mine (and several peers of mine) just for the record, and again I am not saying this is true in this in this case, just adding it because there are more scenarios and I would feel terrible if even one remote person in my situation got the wrong info and support if they have a very developmentally disabled child. Q started pretending to "lick" while imitating the dog and cat. He also wore a collar and curled up on the back of the couch or in a kennel. He also wore a leash sometimes for play. It was done in that context at first. It was clear where it started. As he grew that one part of the routine got attention. (Not that he was doing it but he'd say lick penis) and then he'd say lick your penis because as with many kids with autism he reversed pronouns continuously. It became one of his perseverative statements and of course people assumed the worst. As he got older it "naturally" morphed into a curiosity because kids explore their bodies and he already had that thought/statement. Along the line someone told him it was sexual and was abusive to say that around others. True but had I been involved I could have explained they just reinforced the thought. It became something that he could get tons of attention from (never acted on anything just said it by this time...) This is not so rare, I have had students and friends dealing with much more overt behaviors "where they practice what they learn...one from that innocent little where do babies come from" book. It's the big picture here that makes all of this boy's behaviors, both sexually and aggressively (with the history), so concerning. There's so much and other kids are being hurt as well as animals. I just wanted to clarify because you never know who is reading on this forum and id never say dont.take.a nehavior like.this.lightly! If its more isolated and you can trace the development its a different kind of help thats needed. Either way kids would need protecting etc. Again to be clear, this poor guy seems sadly, terribly involved and dangerous. I'm not disagreeing at all. Just that outside of the mental health field, people don't say "why else would any child do that?" They know there are other reasons. Bottom line, one should get it professionally checked by all sides. Mental health people and social workers will immediately say abuse and once my well documented trail was shown...(I brought it up.from age 3 at.the pediatricians.) people agree its not the case. It's in his county records now to avoid someone over reacting. Even our psychiatrist who has five special needs.kids.of her own agrees that q has no signs of being abused that way and.she said that she has other clients who like q just do or say what comes to mind and need direct teaching around social rules. [/QUOTE]
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