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<blockquote data-quote="Bunny" data-source="post: 488206"><p>((((Hugs)))). I know exactly how you feel. I have felt that way myself on occasion. After a while you just get tired of being beaten down by a child that you have loved for so long. It's frustating, especially when you have done everything in your power to make things better for her. Like Daisy Face said, the bad news is that in difficult child's eyes, everything that goes wrong in her life will, somehow, be your fault and your fault alone. </p><p></p><p>However, you know differently, and I think most other people know it, too. Remember that.</p><p></p><p>If you can see a therapist, I would take the time to go and see one for your own piece of mind. I walked into my therapist's office saying the exact same thing. I HATE difficult child! She was able to work through it with me and I believe now that it's not necessarily difficult child that I hate. It's his behavior towards me and the rest of the family that I hate, and I have even gone as far as to tell difficult child that when he carries on about how no one loves him. "It's not you that we don't love, dear. We love you, but it's the way you behave that we don't love." Tough for a kid to understand, though. At least if it's something that they don't want to understand.</p><p></p><p>Do you have any hobbies or anything that you like to do that you really love? If so, do it! For me, when I'm feeling REALLY bad a book is exactly what I need. I can get lost in the pages and forget my real life problems for a while. You need to make time for yourself so that you can recharge your batteries and have some energy for yourself and for your other kids. Moms need to remember that they need to take care of themselves sometimes before they take care of the others in the family, and I think that this is especially true for warrior moms. Selfish? I don't think so. Remember that when you are on an ariplane and if the cabin looses pressure and the air masks drop down, they tell you to put YOURS on first, and then, and only then, should you help your child.</p><p></p><p>Stay strong. We know how you feel.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Bunny, post: 488206"] ((((Hugs)))). I know exactly how you feel. I have felt that way myself on occasion. After a while you just get tired of being beaten down by a child that you have loved for so long. It's frustating, especially when you have done everything in your power to make things better for her. Like Daisy Face said, the bad news is that in difficult child's eyes, everything that goes wrong in her life will, somehow, be your fault and your fault alone. However, you know differently, and I think most other people know it, too. Remember that. If you can see a therapist, I would take the time to go and see one for your own piece of mind. I walked into my therapist's office saying the exact same thing. I HATE difficult child! She was able to work through it with me and I believe now that it's not necessarily difficult child that I hate. It's his behavior towards me and the rest of the family that I hate, and I have even gone as far as to tell difficult child that when he carries on about how no one loves him. "It's not you that we don't love, dear. We love you, but it's the way you behave that we don't love." Tough for a kid to understand, though. At least if it's something that they don't want to understand. Do you have any hobbies or anything that you like to do that you really love? If so, do it! For me, when I'm feeling REALLY bad a book is exactly what I need. I can get lost in the pages and forget my real life problems for a while. You need to make time for yourself so that you can recharge your batteries and have some energy for yourself and for your other kids. Moms need to remember that they need to take care of themselves sometimes before they take care of the others in the family, and I think that this is especially true for warrior moms. Selfish? I don't think so. Remember that when you are on an ariplane and if the cabin looses pressure and the air masks drop down, they tell you to put YOURS on first, and then, and only then, should you help your child. Stay strong. We know how you feel. [/QUOTE]
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