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<blockquote data-quote="dreamer" data-source="post: 135684" data-attributes="member: 1697"><p>I'm not sure I ever knew there was any other way for it to be. It is my oldest child who was my most difficult difficult child. ALas, I did not realize the magnitude until I already went on and had 2 more kids. ANd at that time, I did not realize what was coming with husband, either. </p><p>On Kate Plus 8 Kate says something at the beginning of the show---I cannot remember it exactly, but- it is something like "......it may be a hard life (or something like that) but it is OUR life......</p><p></p><p>Oh, I still try to make it all be some better.....but.....once I realized this is how our life is......this is how my husband and kids are.....I seemed to cope with it better, in many ways. I shrug and remind myself, well, I wanted kids, then I LOL.then I move on to the next challenge. or not. Sometimes I say to myself- well if you can't beat em, join em....and I pull my own little stunt. ("forget" to grocery shop...."forget" to do laundry......"don't feel like makeing dinner") </p><p>Over the 19 years of this......I think I am now at a place of "would rather fight than switch" I have learned a LOT from being here in this. I am more sympathetic, kinder, far less judgemental........I have learned to TRULY treasure the "good moments" and these days I can fully appreciate many of the smaller things in life. </p><p></p><p>GFGism has dramatically affected our finances (we now live on one tenth of what we once did) it has affected our social lives (what social life?- altho I found out who my "good" friends were, sadly, I found out there weren't any- altho I still reach out to others, I now expect far less in any relationship) It has changed my priorities for what is important at home. </p><p>But I truly did not even realize haveing kids could be so very much different. I was SHOCKED one day at work when I really listened to others talk about their kids, and it sure did not sound to me like some people really had very much going on in their life even after haveing kids. Some days I feel sorry for some of those people. </p><p>That which did not kill me made me stronger. </p><p>MOst often it is ME who now makes faces and sticks out MY tongue, then I begin to LOL. </p><p>The doors got slammed so many times, half my cupboards do not even HAVE doors, and the kids rooms do not have doors- they broke them, I shrugged and said well there ya go, too bad so sad you lose, I am not fixing it. </p><p>No need to pound on door even if I am taking a marathon bubble bath in the ONE bathroom we share between the 5 of us....I leave the door unlocked, and if anyone wants in, I pull shower curtain and let them in. If I do not want to hear them, I turn the water back on, or put my head under the water, LOL. BUT I get to do the same back to them when THEY want to be in there. (turn about is fair play) </p><p></p><p>I lived alone for years before I married and had kids....I never even had roomates. BUT, after 20 years of this? I sometimes worry if they all moved out, I might get bored, or die of stimulus deprivation. </p><p>I know I am alive cuz hey, someone is horseing around or hollering or something. When it gets quiet around here, I start to panic and think I died and someone forgot to tell me.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="dreamer, post: 135684, member: 1697"] I'm not sure I ever knew there was any other way for it to be. It is my oldest child who was my most difficult difficult child. ALas, I did not realize the magnitude until I already went on and had 2 more kids. ANd at that time, I did not realize what was coming with husband, either. On Kate Plus 8 Kate says something at the beginning of the show---I cannot remember it exactly, but- it is something like "......it may be a hard life (or something like that) but it is OUR life...... Oh, I still try to make it all be some better.....but.....once I realized this is how our life is......this is how my husband and kids are.....I seemed to cope with it better, in many ways. I shrug and remind myself, well, I wanted kids, then I LOL.then I move on to the next challenge. or not. Sometimes I say to myself- well if you can't beat em, join em....and I pull my own little stunt. ("forget" to grocery shop...."forget" to do laundry......"don't feel like makeing dinner") Over the 19 years of this......I think I am now at a place of "would rather fight than switch" I have learned a LOT from being here in this. I am more sympathetic, kinder, far less judgemental........I have learned to TRULY treasure the "good moments" and these days I can fully appreciate many of the smaller things in life. GFGism has dramatically affected our finances (we now live on one tenth of what we once did) it has affected our social lives (what social life?- altho I found out who my "good" friends were, sadly, I found out there weren't any- altho I still reach out to others, I now expect far less in any relationship) It has changed my priorities for what is important at home. But I truly did not even realize haveing kids could be so very much different. I was SHOCKED one day at work when I really listened to others talk about their kids, and it sure did not sound to me like some people really had very much going on in their life even after haveing kids. Some days I feel sorry for some of those people. That which did not kill me made me stronger. MOst often it is ME who now makes faces and sticks out MY tongue, then I begin to LOL. The doors got slammed so many times, half my cupboards do not even HAVE doors, and the kids rooms do not have doors- they broke them, I shrugged and said well there ya go, too bad so sad you lose, I am not fixing it. No need to pound on door even if I am taking a marathon bubble bath in the ONE bathroom we share between the 5 of us....I leave the door unlocked, and if anyone wants in, I pull shower curtain and let them in. If I do not want to hear them, I turn the water back on, or put my head under the water, LOL. BUT I get to do the same back to them when THEY want to be in there. (turn about is fair play) I lived alone for years before I married and had kids....I never even had roomates. BUT, after 20 years of this? I sometimes worry if they all moved out, I might get bored, or die of stimulus deprivation. I know I am alive cuz hey, someone is horseing around or hollering or something. When it gets quiet around here, I start to panic and think I died and someone forgot to tell me. [/QUOTE]
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