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I have the most perfect easy child! (Huge bragging warning)
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<blockquote data-quote="SuZir" data-source="post: 583073" data-attributes="member: 14557"><p>One good thing on juniors being under adult/pro teams thumb. They drill to junior coaches that player development takes importance over winning. From easy child's team statistically around 20 to 25 % turn out to play some level of pros and they really want to teach these lessons to them when they are 16 and not when they are 26. I think the parent team has some future expectations at least for the boy easy child doesn't like and maybe one other now suspended boy.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>I have always felt that any parenting mistake we have made, difficult child has been more sensitive to. Same mistakes with easy child don't seem to matter much or can be settled with just correcting our parenting or an apology and some making up and reassuring. Of course, one should also always remember how much good we have done for our more challenging children. I bet any other option Q had for his future would had been greatly inferior to being your son. You may not be a perfect mom, but I'm sure you are darn good one. And one with more resources (just your educational background, intelligence, share will etc.) in many ways than vast majority of people. And in the end same goes with my difficult child. Even a fact that difficult child was born in that maybe 10 % of people worldwide who have an access to level of health care that made him survive his illness when he was only half a year old. And even in that 10 % of people worldwide I and husband belong to the lucky part with many resources available for us in every way. For example just a fact that I could mommy track my career and even stay home for several years when boys were young were invaluable. easy child would had done just fine if he would had gone to day care when he was ten months old, when the well paid parental leaves ended. But difficult child would had been toast. He needed so much down time, had so much separation anxiety and social situation were so draining to him, that for him the few play dates and parent-child(ren) clubs a week were enough. </p><p></p><p>And yes, difficult child wasn't like that as a baby. He couldn't be soothed, screamed non-stop for his first year (except an about month he was in hospital and too sick to scream middle of it) and feeding him was an nightmare. Part of it was colic and part likely sensory issues. So our boys certainly have been different to parent from the get-go. Still I hated it when well-meaning people when easy child was a baby told me how happy they were for me that my second baby was a good or nice one. I mean, I was very relieved and happy too, that easy child was such a sunny and easy baby, but calling him good or nice compared to difficult child. What that was supposed to make difficult child? Bad or naughty baby? Just because he was feeling uncomfortable and we didn't have tools to fix that for him?</p><p></p><p>I was lucky enough to be one of those with whom pregnancy hormones worked very well and I was madly, deeply and forever in love with my oldest from the moment they lied him to my chest before the cord was even cut. I know that for many it doesn't work that quickly and they fall in with their babies over longer time (and don't end up loving them any less), but I fear that if I had been one of those less prone to their hormones, difficult child being so unrewarding baby to take care of could had caused some real attachment issues.</p><p></p><p>But with easy child all that has always been so easy. He is an easy child to love and he brings us so much joy it is unbelievable. I have at times wondered what a different view we would have to kids and parenting and life more general if easy child would be our only child.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SuZir, post: 583073, member: 14557"] One good thing on juniors being under adult/pro teams thumb. They drill to junior coaches that player development takes importance over winning. From easy child's team statistically around 20 to 25 % turn out to play some level of pros and they really want to teach these lessons to them when they are 16 and not when they are 26. I think the parent team has some future expectations at least for the boy easy child doesn't like and maybe one other now suspended boy. I have always felt that any parenting mistake we have made, difficult child has been more sensitive to. Same mistakes with easy child don't seem to matter much or can be settled with just correcting our parenting or an apology and some making up and reassuring. Of course, one should also always remember how much good we have done for our more challenging children. I bet any other option Q had for his future would had been greatly inferior to being your son. You may not be a perfect mom, but I'm sure you are darn good one. And one with more resources (just your educational background, intelligence, share will etc.) in many ways than vast majority of people. And in the end same goes with my difficult child. Even a fact that difficult child was born in that maybe 10 % of people worldwide who have an access to level of health care that made him survive his illness when he was only half a year old. And even in that 10 % of people worldwide I and husband belong to the lucky part with many resources available for us in every way. For example just a fact that I could mommy track my career and even stay home for several years when boys were young were invaluable. easy child would had done just fine if he would had gone to day care when he was ten months old, when the well paid parental leaves ended. But difficult child would had been toast. He needed so much down time, had so much separation anxiety and social situation were so draining to him, that for him the few play dates and parent-child(ren) clubs a week were enough. And yes, difficult child wasn't like that as a baby. He couldn't be soothed, screamed non-stop for his first year (except an about month he was in hospital and too sick to scream middle of it) and feeding him was an nightmare. Part of it was colic and part likely sensory issues. So our boys certainly have been different to parent from the get-go. Still I hated it when well-meaning people when easy child was a baby told me how happy they were for me that my second baby was a good or nice one. I mean, I was very relieved and happy too, that easy child was such a sunny and easy baby, but calling him good or nice compared to difficult child. What that was supposed to make difficult child? Bad or naughty baby? Just because he was feeling uncomfortable and we didn't have tools to fix that for him? I was lucky enough to be one of those with whom pregnancy hormones worked very well and I was madly, deeply and forever in love with my oldest from the moment they lied him to my chest before the cord was even cut. I know that for many it doesn't work that quickly and they fall in with their babies over longer time (and don't end up loving them any less), but I fear that if I had been one of those less prone to their hormones, difficult child being so unrewarding baby to take care of could had caused some real attachment issues. But with easy child all that has always been so easy. He is an easy child to love and he brings us so much joy it is unbelievable. I have at times wondered what a different view we would have to kids and parenting and life more general if easy child would be our only child. [/QUOTE]
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