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I just cant be nice to her anymore!!! Help
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<blockquote data-quote="reallytrying" data-source="post: 169089" data-attributes="member: 5447"><p>I can definitely relate! In fact, that is one of the first things I told the therapist when we met: "I feel so guilty because I don't like her, and I'm only at ease when I'm away from her" It felt good to say it and not be judged--which was the beginning of things changing. </p><p>She was such a difficult baby that I worried she wouldn't feel like I loved her, and that made me feel guilty as well. </p><p></p><p>Nowadays, I try to stare at her long enough that I remember how beautiful she is and how I would do anything to help her (she is pretty darn cute!) and though it sounds crazy, it seems to be working. She will say "<em>What?</em>" and I just tell her "nothing!" </p><p></p><p>It is very difficult to just turn feelings on and off--in my opinion, sometimes it is necessary to put some emotional distance to still be able to function.</p><p></p><p>Healing thought coming your way <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="reallytrying, post: 169089, member: 5447"] I can definitely relate! In fact, that is one of the first things I told the therapist when we met: "I feel so guilty because I don't like her, and I'm only at ease when I'm away from her" It felt good to say it and not be judged--which was the beginning of things changing. She was such a difficult baby that I worried she wouldn't feel like I loved her, and that made me feel guilty as well. Nowadays, I try to stare at her long enough that I remember how beautiful she is and how I would do anything to help her (she is pretty darn cute!) and though it sounds crazy, it seems to be working. She will say "[I]What?[/I]" and I just tell her "nothing!" It is very difficult to just turn feelings on and off--in my opinion, sometimes it is necessary to put some emotional distance to still be able to function. Healing thought coming your way :) [/QUOTE]
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