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<blockquote data-quote="Mamaof5" data-source="post: 406079"><p>You know what the problem is? It's not your job to fix people. It's your job to support them in finding out how to fix themselves. The only person you can fix is you. You can't force them to want to fix it, you can't force them to change, you can't even give them an ultimatum to change. It just doesn't work. They have to want to.</p><p></p><p>It's your job to find resources for your kids, it's not your job to find resources for your husband though. It's your job to support your kids in all aspects, but not your job to change them or fix them. It's a frustrating circle of going around and around trying to draw that fine line of "am I trying to fix them" or "am I trying to support them".</p><p></p><p>The lines blurr often. If your husband is going to pull **** like that right now, in your shoes I'd be telling him get out now, get out before the door hits you on the bottom. I'd be telling him, stop acting like a child and man up. What is he a boy or a man? Needy, yeah we all are, suck it up - it's a crisis right now you'll get what you need when the kids have what they need first.</p><p></p><p>(I'm in my I'm a big "B" mood right now so if that was harsh...I apologize)</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mamaof5, post: 406079"] You know what the problem is? It's not your job to fix people. It's your job to support them in finding out how to fix themselves. The only person you can fix is you. You can't force them to want to fix it, you can't force them to change, you can't even give them an ultimatum to change. It just doesn't work. They have to want to. It's your job to find resources for your kids, it's not your job to find resources for your husband though. It's your job to support your kids in all aspects, but not your job to change them or fix them. It's a frustrating circle of going around and around trying to draw that fine line of "am I trying to fix them" or "am I trying to support them". The lines blurr often. If your husband is going to pull **** like that right now, in your shoes I'd be telling him get out now, get out before the door hits you on the bottom. I'd be telling him, stop acting like a child and man up. What is he a boy or a man? Needy, yeah we all are, suck it up - it's a crisis right now you'll get what you need when the kids have what they need first. (I'm in my I'm a big "B" mood right now so if that was harsh...I apologize) [/QUOTE]
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