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<blockquote data-quote="DDD" data-source="post: 249509" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>OK. You are right that it is difficult for any of us to know "exactly" what you are feeling and fearing. That is the joy of being part of the CD family. Many of us are experiencing, fearing and feeling things that we just can't communicate because it's too complex and mostly because if you are not in the "same shoes" you can't track the walk. Personally I am not "in crisis" right now but it has not been very long ago that I was in the midst of an emotional knock down drag out with the system.</p><p> </p><p>in my humble opinion the only "compromise" that I see for you that should not hurt your son NOR set you up for efforts by the PO to "out your issues" or "control your position" is this:</p><p> </p><p>Compile your thoughts on this test request on a sheet of paper for YOUR use only. Entitle It "psychiatric Testing For Mom". List in order who mentioned it first as a possibility.....and later through to the concept of requirement. Use your notes. When did you first hear it? From whom? How phrased. Enumerate. If I recall, for example, you had three people in one day ask you about it. Write down Day #, received call from X asking when, two hours later received call from Y asking when, three hours later Z asked when or if?</p><p> </p><p>Then get to the conversation two days ago when the tester asked you why you were hesitant. Write down date and time and body of the conversation without all your fears enumerated. Keep it simple. Tester "stated that he did not know that I had a therapist already" "stated that he did not believe others knews" "stated that the Court should be satisfied with therapist's ?? existence ?? overview ?? psychiatric testing ?? in lieu of his.</p><p> </p><p>Your therapist can truthfully put in writing to the Court that Mrs. Q has sought out my professional expertise due to the combined stress of seeking help for her difficult child since 2006. Although she has actively sought help for difficult child and assured that he made all appointments for mental health assistance as well as requirements of the Probation Office, she has felt that the emphasis has shifted from providing mental health services for her son to micromanaging her life and parenting skills. Since Mrs. Q has never had dealings with the system prior to this crisis period, she has shared her concerns with me and I have assured her that she has been remarkable coping with the outside pressures while seeking the care that is in the "best interests of her child".</p><p> </p><p>Then...the therapist could simply say "after extended contact with my patient I can assure the Court that there is no indication that she has abnormal psychological indicators". OR, if the therapist thinks it best, you could be given a basic psychiatric test that only reveals MAJOR issues so you can be ruled out as a potential mass murderer, sociopath etc. etc.</p><p> </p><p>Don't you think it is possible to try this simplified way to meet the Court requrest?? Hugs. DDD</p><p> </p><p>by the way, I am almost 100&#37; sure that if your therapist does a test and it indicates "anything" that you would be uncomfortable with, you can say "forget it". You are the one in charge using a private resource and you can flush it at will...........then you won't feel victimized or in jeopardy. Think about it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DDD, post: 249509, member: 35"] OK. You are right that it is difficult for any of us to know "exactly" what you are feeling and fearing. That is the joy of being part of the CD family. Many of us are experiencing, fearing and feeling things that we just can't communicate because it's too complex and mostly because if you are not in the "same shoes" you can't track the walk. Personally I am not "in crisis" right now but it has not been very long ago that I was in the midst of an emotional knock down drag out with the system. in my humble opinion the only "compromise" that I see for you that should not hurt your son NOR set you up for efforts by the PO to "out your issues" or "control your position" is this: Compile your thoughts on this test request on a sheet of paper for YOUR use only. Entitle It "psychiatric Testing For Mom". List in order who mentioned it first as a possibility.....and later through to the concept of requirement. Use your notes. When did you first hear it? From whom? How phrased. Enumerate. If I recall, for example, you had three people in one day ask you about it. Write down Day #, received call from X asking when, two hours later received call from Y asking when, three hours later Z asked when or if? Then get to the conversation two days ago when the tester asked you why you were hesitant. Write down date and time and body of the conversation without all your fears enumerated. Keep it simple. Tester "stated that he did not know that I had a therapist already" "stated that he did not believe others knews" "stated that the Court should be satisfied with therapist's ?? existence ?? overview ?? psychiatric testing ?? in lieu of his. Your therapist can truthfully put in writing to the Court that Mrs. Q has sought out my professional expertise due to the combined stress of seeking help for her difficult child since 2006. Although she has actively sought help for difficult child and assured that he made all appointments for mental health assistance as well as requirements of the Probation Office, she has felt that the emphasis has shifted from providing mental health services for her son to micromanaging her life and parenting skills. Since Mrs. Q has never had dealings with the system prior to this crisis period, she has shared her concerns with me and I have assured her that she has been remarkable coping with the outside pressures while seeking the care that is in the "best interests of her child". Then...the therapist could simply say "after extended contact with my patient I can assure the Court that there is no indication that she has abnormal psychological indicators". OR, if the therapist thinks it best, you could be given a basic psychiatric test that only reveals MAJOR issues so you can be ruled out as a potential mass murderer, sociopath etc. etc. Don't you think it is possible to try this simplified way to meet the Court requrest?? Hugs. DDD by the way, I am almost 100% sure that if your therapist does a test and it indicates "anything" that you would be uncomfortable with, you can say "forget it". You are the one in charge using a private resource and you can flush it at will...........then you won't feel victimized or in jeopardy. Think about it. [/QUOTE]
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