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<blockquote data-quote="janebrain" data-source="post: 197963" data-attributes="member: 3208"><p>Hi Shawna,</p><p>wow, you are way too hard on yourself! You had every right to call her what you did and more. The problem as I see it is that you are engaging her. Why are you having these conversations at all? What you tell her about her life makes absolutely no difference except that she gets something out of these conversations with you. You need to set boundaries--do not speak to her about her choices, etc. You have already stated your position, she knows what it is. I think she enjoys getting a rise out of you and you are falling for the bait. </p><p></p><p>I do not think you should have apologized to her, I think you need to get strong and quit letting her walk all over you. She should be out of your house the moment she is 18. It sounds like she has you under her total control. Take back your life. She has you so beaten down you don't know how to find your way out. Yes, you do need a therapist who can help you grow strong again. Your dtr will never ever respect you if you let her walk all over you this way.</p><p></p><p>Okay, lecture over--you did nothing wrong--please, please don't be so hard on yourself!</p><p></p><p>Hugs,</p><p>Jane</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="janebrain, post: 197963, member: 3208"] Hi Shawna, wow, you are way too hard on yourself! You had every right to call her what you did and more. The problem as I see it is that you are engaging her. Why are you having these conversations at all? What you tell her about her life makes absolutely no difference except that she gets something out of these conversations with you. You need to set boundaries--do not speak to her about her choices, etc. You have already stated your position, she knows what it is. I think she enjoys getting a rise out of you and you are falling for the bait. I do not think you should have apologized to her, I think you need to get strong and quit letting her walk all over you. She should be out of your house the moment she is 18. It sounds like she has you under her total control. Take back your life. She has you so beaten down you don't know how to find your way out. Yes, you do need a therapist who can help you grow strong again. Your dtr will never ever respect you if you let her walk all over you this way. Okay, lecture over--you did nothing wrong--please, please don't be so hard on yourself! Hugs, Jane [/QUOTE]
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