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<blockquote data-quote="donna723" data-source="post: 174215" data-attributes="member: 1883"><p>Lisa, it could be a combination of things all hitting her at once. Maybe it's just all catching up with her now. Her schedule of working two jobs and going to school, while being a wife and mother would cause anyone to be going over the edge! Is she disappointed with herself now because she thinks she's <em>supposed</em> to be able to do all this? I remember feeling absolutely exhausted through those first few months of pregnancy, as well as being on the hormonal roller coaster. And if she was working all those hours to help pay off loans, that could be another thing she's worried about. Plus, trying for months and even years to become pregnant and being disappointed month after month is a <em>tremendously</em> stressful thing! My own daughter and sister in law have been "trying" for over three years now and she has to struggle to not become obsessive about it.</p><p> </p><p>Then, factor in all the worry about miscarriage and it's no wonder the poor girl is having problems! I think I know how she feels. In my first marriage, it took me three years to become pregnant with a child that I desperately wanted. When I miscarried at three months I was devestated. Five years later, in my second marriage, after a long time of trying, I became pregnant with my daughter. I was so terrified of losing her, it took all the joy and anticipation that I should have been feeling and replaced it with fear. Even though everything was going fine, I had already resigned myself and prepared myself for losing her so that, if anything happened, I would not go through what I did the first time. It was not a happy time for me as it should have been. Even in the later months, I would not <em>allow</em> myself to count on having her, right up till the day she was born! If she did well, then I would be happily surprised. And even after she was delivered, fat and healthy, it didn't stop! I was one of those that hovered over the crib watching her breathe! And five years later when her brother was born, I did the same thing.</p><p> </p><p>It's wonderful that she has you to talk to and that you are there for her. I'm sure it's a huge comfort to her. There <em>may</em> be more to it, but just what she's been coping with already would be overwhelming to most people. Has she talked to her doctor? Maybe her OB could steer her to someone she could see for a while who could help her put things in perspective. Sending lots of (((hugs))).</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="donna723, post: 174215, member: 1883"] Lisa, it could be a combination of things all hitting her at once. Maybe it's just all catching up with her now. Her schedule of working two jobs and going to school, while being a wife and mother would cause anyone to be going over the edge! Is she disappointed with herself now because she thinks she's [I]supposed[/I] to be able to do all this? I remember feeling absolutely exhausted through those first few months of pregnancy, as well as being on the hormonal roller coaster. And if she was working all those hours to help pay off loans, that could be another thing she's worried about. Plus, trying for months and even years to become pregnant and being disappointed month after month is a [I]tremendously[/I] stressful thing! My own daughter and sister in law have been "trying" for over three years now and she has to struggle to not become obsessive about it. Then, factor in all the worry about miscarriage and it's no wonder the poor girl is having problems! I think I know how she feels. In my first marriage, it took me three years to become pregnant with a child that I desperately wanted. When I miscarried at three months I was devestated. Five years later, in my second marriage, after a long time of trying, I became pregnant with my daughter. I was so terrified of losing her, it took all the joy and anticipation that I should have been feeling and replaced it with fear. Even though everything was going fine, I had already resigned myself and prepared myself for losing her so that, if anything happened, I would not go through what I did the first time. It was not a happy time for me as it should have been. Even in the later months, I would not [I]allow[/I] myself to count on having her, right up till the day she was born! If she did well, then I would be happily surprised. And even after she was delivered, fat and healthy, it didn't stop! I was one of those that hovered over the crib watching her breathe! And five years later when her brother was born, I did the same thing. It's wonderful that she has you to talk to and that you are there for her. I'm sure it's a huge comfort to her. There [I]may[/I] be more to it, but just what she's been coping with already would be overwhelming to most people. Has she talked to her doctor? Maybe her OB could steer her to someone she could see for a while who could help her put things in perspective. Sending lots of (((hugs))). [/QUOTE]
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