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I need encouragement to do the right thing...
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<blockquote data-quote="Kathy813" data-source="post: 602078" data-attributes="member: 1967"><p>LMS, I have been working hard on learning how to let go. I have been seeing a therapist and she has helped me see that it is time to let my difficult child sink or swim on her own. I, too, worry about suicide or an overdose but the truth is that those things can also happen in your house (remember when my husband found my difficult child overdosed on the couch?). My therapist pointed out that worrying about these things is keeping my husband and I in a state of emotional blackmail.</p><p></p><p>I think my difficult child finally believes that husband and I are ready to completely cut ties if necessary to keep her from being able to emotionally blackmail us with her threats of hurting herself or going to live with a heroin dealer. The therapist did say that we have to be strong enough to accept the fact that this could end badly but realize that we really have no power to stop her from hurting herself and that enabling her behaviors is also hurting her.</p><p></p><p>So I think that you are doing the right thing. Does his wife and kids have somewhere else they can stay? I know that would be harder than just telling your son that he has to leave. Believe your gut . . . if you think he is using again then he is using again. </p><p></p><p>~Kathy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Kathy813, post: 602078, member: 1967"] LMS, I have been working hard on learning how to let go. I have been seeing a therapist and she has helped me see that it is time to let my difficult child sink or swim on her own. I, too, worry about suicide or an overdose but the truth is that those things can also happen in your house (remember when my husband found my difficult child overdosed on the couch?). My therapist pointed out that worrying about these things is keeping my husband and I in a state of emotional blackmail. I think my difficult child finally believes that husband and I are ready to completely cut ties if necessary to keep her from being able to emotionally blackmail us with her threats of hurting herself or going to live with a heroin dealer. The therapist did say that we have to be strong enough to accept the fact that this could end badly but realize that we really have no power to stop her from hurting herself and that enabling her behaviors is also hurting her. So I think that you are doing the right thing. Does his wife and kids have somewhere else they can stay? I know that would be harder than just telling your son that he has to leave. Believe your gut . . . if you think he is using again then he is using again. ~Kathy [/QUOTE]
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