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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 304438" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Hi paula. I had hoped that further bad things would not happen. Last I heard from you was a long time ago and Andre was on the run. You hadn't heard from him in over a month. I never knew he was found, but at least he was found.</p><p></p><p>If Andre had representation at his first meeting with the judge, when he was sent to rehab, then he should have been able to have that atty with him for questioning. If it was a private atty you paid for then they might or might not have shown up. </p><p></p><p>Sad to tell you this, but almost every gang member over 14 knows they do not have to talk to police if they are not under arrest. THey also know that they just have to say they want a lawyer and then say nothing else. Most gangs drill this in their minds over and over again. It is part of how the gangs have lasted so long and so few of them, vs how many are not incarcerated at any time, are not in prison in spite of all of the illegal things they do/help with.</p><p></p><p>He may have been gung ho going in, but about day 4 the withdrawal gets even worse. And MANY run from rehab the first week. Often more run than stay. So he may not have run just because the officer came.</p><p></p><p>I do not know the responsibility of the officer or the facility. I know that many "lock down" facilities will escort you to the door and not say anything to anyone else if you break the rules. Some will notify the police if you are court ordered, some don't. They don't have enough resources to waste them on someone who is breaking the rules, no matter what the court says. </p><p></p><p>Then again, the officer may have said something then left him alone to see if he would run. You never know.</p><p></p><p>I am sorry this happened again, with him running and leaving you to worry. Sadly, the courts will see it as him blowing his chance. He will have consequences, I am sure.</p><p></p><p>Many hugs to you. I know this must be just awful. I had hoped things were much much better for you.</p><p></p><p>Sorry I could not sound more hopeful.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 304438, member: 1233"] Hi paula. I had hoped that further bad things would not happen. Last I heard from you was a long time ago and Andre was on the run. You hadn't heard from him in over a month. I never knew he was found, but at least he was found. If Andre had representation at his first meeting with the judge, when he was sent to rehab, then he should have been able to have that atty with him for questioning. If it was a private atty you paid for then they might or might not have shown up. Sad to tell you this, but almost every gang member over 14 knows they do not have to talk to police if they are not under arrest. THey also know that they just have to say they want a lawyer and then say nothing else. Most gangs drill this in their minds over and over again. It is part of how the gangs have lasted so long and so few of them, vs how many are not incarcerated at any time, are not in prison in spite of all of the illegal things they do/help with. He may have been gung ho going in, but about day 4 the withdrawal gets even worse. And MANY run from rehab the first week. Often more run than stay. So he may not have run just because the officer came. I do not know the responsibility of the officer or the facility. I know that many "lock down" facilities will escort you to the door and not say anything to anyone else if you break the rules. Some will notify the police if you are court ordered, some don't. They don't have enough resources to waste them on someone who is breaking the rules, no matter what the court says. Then again, the officer may have said something then left him alone to see if he would run. You never know. I am sorry this happened again, with him running and leaving you to worry. Sadly, the courts will see it as him blowing his chance. He will have consequences, I am sure. Many hugs to you. I know this must be just awful. I had hoped things were much much better for you. Sorry I could not sound more hopeful. [/QUOTE]
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