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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 600240" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p><span style="color: #0000ff">"<em>I always try to operate out of love and sometimes making that decision that I feel is right hurts my heart so badly but I do it anyway. I know I seem all over the map when it comes to </em><em>difficult child and maybe this is normal. One day I'm detached, the next I'm a sobbing mess, the next I'm researching options, the next I'm turning off the cell phone, the next I'm thinking of paying his rent. I guess I'm still on that roller coaster." </em></span></p><p></p><p>That quote sums it all up in my opinion. That's the landscape, plain and simple. That's what is crazy making, that's what hurts us so, that's what brings on the doubts, no one can stand on this ever moving, violent precipice we stand on and not get shaken to the core. This is not a normal environment, this is an insane environment which is wracked with having to make these devastating choices which mangle our hearts, then we must learn to absorb that hurt and then get ready for the next step. This is not the way it is supposed to be and yet this is the way it is and getting to a place where the way it is is livable and doesn't take us out, is a remarkable journey. </p><p></p><p>All those feelings you're having WTW are part of this landscape, you really can't escape that, we have to learn to live in it and be okay in it, whew, what a huge order. You are doing what feels right to you without expectations (which may not be met), that's good, and you're recognizing just how powerless we really are and learning to accept what is, that's as good as it gets..............sending you big hugs...............</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 600240, member: 13542"] [COLOR=#0000ff]"[I]I always try to operate out of love and sometimes making that decision that I feel is right hurts my heart so badly but I do it anyway. I know I seem all over the map when it comes to [/I][I]difficult child and maybe this is normal. One day I'm detached, the next I'm a sobbing mess, the next I'm researching options, the next I'm turning off the cell phone, the next I'm thinking of paying his rent. I guess I'm still on that roller coaster." [/I][/COLOR] That quote sums it all up in my opinion. That's the landscape, plain and simple. That's what is crazy making, that's what hurts us so, that's what brings on the doubts, no one can stand on this ever moving, violent precipice we stand on and not get shaken to the core. This is not a normal environment, this is an insane environment which is wracked with having to make these devastating choices which mangle our hearts, then we must learn to absorb that hurt and then get ready for the next step. This is not the way it is supposed to be and yet this is the way it is and getting to a place where the way it is is livable and doesn't take us out, is a remarkable journey. All those feelings you're having WTW are part of this landscape, you really can't escape that, we have to learn to live in it and be okay in it, whew, what a huge order. You are doing what feels right to you without expectations (which may not be met), that's good, and you're recognizing just how powerless we really are and learning to accept what is, that's as good as it gets..............sending you big hugs............... [/QUOTE]
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