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<blockquote data-quote="slsh" data-source="post: 192685" data-attributes="member: 8"><p>Steely, I'm sending warm thoughts and support your way, and to difficult child.</p><p> </p><p>I understand your sense of urgency. thank you will be 18 in 6 months and I suspect the bottom will drop out, with no safety net for him. Not because we haven't tried but because he has refused to participate, refused to seek out resources that are sitting right in front of his face. </p><p> </p><p>I know you need your son to make this placement work but it won't until/unless *he* wants it to.</p><p> </p><p>I know you don't want him to be kicked out - but *he* needs to want to stay.</p><p> </p><p>I know you want him safe post age 18. I understand the desire to turn the reins over to someone else to guide your son safely - boy do I understand it. The resources are there, albeit sometimes hard to find. But if your/my son doesn't want to use them.... doesn't matter how many doors we knock on or calls we make.</p><p> </p><p>I hope that someone at the Residential Treatment Center (RTC) will be able to reach difficult child, that he will be willing to start participating in his own treatment and his own life. We cannot participate for our kids. If our kids' ability to function independently as adults was based solely on our own efforts, you and I wouldn't have much to worry about.</p><p> </p><p>Again, good thoughts coming your and difficult child's way.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="slsh, post: 192685, member: 8"] Steely, I'm sending warm thoughts and support your way, and to difficult child. I understand your sense of urgency. thank you will be 18 in 6 months and I suspect the bottom will drop out, with no safety net for him. Not because we haven't tried but because he has refused to participate, refused to seek out resources that are sitting right in front of his face. I know you need your son to make this placement work but it won't until/unless *he* wants it to. I know you don't want him to be kicked out - but *he* needs to want to stay. I know you want him safe post age 18. I understand the desire to turn the reins over to someone else to guide your son safely - boy do I understand it. The resources are there, albeit sometimes hard to find. But if your/my son doesn't want to use them.... doesn't matter how many doors we knock on or calls we make. I hope that someone at the Residential Treatment Center (RTC) will be able to reach difficult child, that he will be willing to start participating in his own treatment and his own life. We cannot participate for our kids. If our kids' ability to function independently as adults was based solely on our own efforts, you and I wouldn't have much to worry about. Again, good thoughts coming your and difficult child's way. [/QUOTE]
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