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I raised him right, right? Self blame and the pursuit of happiness.
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<blockquote data-quote="Nikimoto" data-source="post: 650439" data-attributes="member: 18791"><p>Thanks Donedad, will just open safari and sort that out. Yes, he is not moving back in. I had a scare when my elder son was almost deployeed, since Evan is not through with high school, he was going to "send him back to our county, where he has people willing to help him". I adamantly refused, stating he would again commence breaking into our house, stopping by with his arrogant belligerence, and continuing to attempt to slander us against people who barely know us. (Shame on people who barely know us for giving Evan the benefit of the doubt, by the way).</p><p>My last contact with Evan was a couple weeks ago. He messaged me on Facebook demanding, not asking respectfully, for some personal info he wanted to fill out a fafsa. In a perfect example of his explosive rage, when I chided him for being disrespectful and told him he can expect to ask nicely and speak to me like a human if he wants or needs something of me, his response appeared on my wall, lambasting me, slandering me, calling me a tumor, and threatening to call child services in an attempt to give him "power over" for the abusive situation he created.</p><p>I responded with a solemn warning that any further slander and abuse would result in a slander and harassment lawsuit, as to his lies about our home life, food, laundry, and everything else he had manipulated beyond recognition, and declared he is not welcome to contact me until or unless he is willing to display respect, and begin to rebuild the bridges he has burnt.</p><p>I then reported his post to facebook as abusive, clicked on "hide" so it would not post to my wall, and he was warned to have his account blocked if he continued abusing me, and his post was removed. But not before I screen shotted it and the included comments.</p><p>He is a legal adult now, if he wants to learn the hard way, he can go ahead with that plan.</p><p>The hard way for me is while I am caring for his younger siblings, I recall memories of what a sweet little kid he was. I remember somebody said one time that some kids just get their asses kicked by puberty and don't respond or cope very well. He had every privilege we could afford as far as counseling and never went without anything he needed. Our counselor basically told us we are just done raising him, everything now is his job, until he chooses to reach for us.</p><p>I knew once he left my response to his requests, no matter how necessary, would be no. It's not ok. It's not ok to turn around and ask, let alone demand things of me after all Evan has done to us up to this point. He certainly has a lot to learn.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nikimoto, post: 650439, member: 18791"] Thanks Donedad, will just open safari and sort that out. Yes, he is not moving back in. I had a scare when my elder son was almost deployeed, since Evan is not through with high school, he was going to "send him back to our county, where he has people willing to help him". I adamantly refused, stating he would again commence breaking into our house, stopping by with his arrogant belligerence, and continuing to attempt to slander us against people who barely know us. (Shame on people who barely know us for giving Evan the benefit of the doubt, by the way). My last contact with Evan was a couple weeks ago. He messaged me on Facebook demanding, not asking respectfully, for some personal info he wanted to fill out a fafsa. In a perfect example of his explosive rage, when I chided him for being disrespectful and told him he can expect to ask nicely and speak to me like a human if he wants or needs something of me, his response appeared on my wall, lambasting me, slandering me, calling me a tumor, and threatening to call child services in an attempt to give him "power over" for the abusive situation he created. I responded with a solemn warning that any further slander and abuse would result in a slander and harassment lawsuit, as to his lies about our home life, food, laundry, and everything else he had manipulated beyond recognition, and declared he is not welcome to contact me until or unless he is willing to display respect, and begin to rebuild the bridges he has burnt. I then reported his post to facebook as abusive, clicked on "hide" so it would not post to my wall, and he was warned to have his account blocked if he continued abusing me, and his post was removed. But not before I screen shotted it and the included comments. He is a legal adult now, if he wants to learn the hard way, he can go ahead with that plan. The hard way for me is while I am caring for his younger siblings, I recall memories of what a sweet little kid he was. I remember somebody said one time that some kids just get their asses kicked by puberty and don't respond or cope very well. He had every privilege we could afford as far as counseling and never went without anything he needed. Our counselor basically told us we are just done raising him, everything now is his job, until he chooses to reach for us. I knew once he left my response to his requests, no matter how necessary, would be no. It's not ok. It's not ok to turn around and ask, let alone demand things of me after all Evan has done to us up to this point. He certainly has a lot to learn. [/QUOTE]
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