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<blockquote data-quote="Andy" data-source="post: 410148" data-attributes="member: 5096"><p>Thanks everyone! Yeah, I know beliefs are very personal and I would never try to change difficult child's. He has a faith stronger than anyone I know. I never went beyond heaven is a wonderful place to think about the details of that wonder and what it would really be. </p><p> </p><p>difficult child is a very deep thinker. And though that is a very good thing, I think it is also his curse. He thinks into things that he is not ready to solve or understand and then gets scared. Like being so anxious over how he could support a wife and child when he was older at the age of 11. He was trying to figure that out without the knowledge that as he grows he will get more tools (education, a job, understanding on how the adult world of bills work, etc.). He really thought that because he could not do it at that point in his life than he would never be able to do it. It was about the time that Diva was making decisions for life after high school and difficult child took on those issues to himself.</p><p> </p><p>Something is definately going on with him this week. He had a dream last night that he yelled at H's mom (I know he wants so bad to do so but I will not allow it), she sued, she lost, he sued back, and he won. At least he was able to release some frustrations/anger in his dreams. His struggles and anger stay with him for so long. I am hoping he will soon see the need to discuss this with therapist. He doesn't think therapist will be able to help so doesn't want to bring it up. I know difficult child - if he is not open to a discussion, he will not get anything from it but just the opposite of pushing him further away from the subject. I have to patiently wait for him to be lured to the place (or for him to willing walk into the place) where he will understand the need for that discussion.</p><p> </p><p>He says today that he is feeling anxious. And though I do know there is not always a reason, I think the combination of dealing with H's accusations (difficult child says H's mom is trying to poison me against him like she has poisoned Diva against him. Diva always believes H's mom.) and the Confirmation lessons along with the Easter season.</p><p> </p><p>Good for him to be really thinking about things - but does it have to go so deep as to bring on the anxiety? </p><p> </p><p>Want to know something that I think is amazing? He is ahead on his memorization work! He looks at the assignment on the way to school and then for some reason once he gets into the classroom, he is able to memorize anything! And I am talking about long stuff - not just a verse. Think about the Apostle's Creed if you are familiar with it. That is the length of some of his assignments. An article plus it's meaning. He started work on one of them on the way to school on Wednesday and when I picked him up after Confirmation he tells me he got three (3) memories done including this one! Granted, the other two where shorter but still - and he does not have the work with him all day - it stays in the van and I drop it off at church after school. </p><p> </p><p>Two Falls ago when he started Confirmation, he was behind by atleast 7 because he just could not do it! We both hate Wednesday because of the memorization. We are both glad it is almost over. Three more memories and he will be done with out of the classroom work (he is the 1st of all the kids to finish the sermon notes needed). </p><p> </p><p>His faith is so important to him!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Andy, post: 410148, member: 5096"] Thanks everyone! Yeah, I know beliefs are very personal and I would never try to change difficult child's. He has a faith stronger than anyone I know. I never went beyond heaven is a wonderful place to think about the details of that wonder and what it would really be. difficult child is a very deep thinker. And though that is a very good thing, I think it is also his curse. He thinks into things that he is not ready to solve or understand and then gets scared. Like being so anxious over how he could support a wife and child when he was older at the age of 11. He was trying to figure that out without the knowledge that as he grows he will get more tools (education, a job, understanding on how the adult world of bills work, etc.). He really thought that because he could not do it at that point in his life than he would never be able to do it. It was about the time that Diva was making decisions for life after high school and difficult child took on those issues to himself. Something is definately going on with him this week. He had a dream last night that he yelled at H's mom (I know he wants so bad to do so but I will not allow it), she sued, she lost, he sued back, and he won. At least he was able to release some frustrations/anger in his dreams. His struggles and anger stay with him for so long. I am hoping he will soon see the need to discuss this with therapist. He doesn't think therapist will be able to help so doesn't want to bring it up. I know difficult child - if he is not open to a discussion, he will not get anything from it but just the opposite of pushing him further away from the subject. I have to patiently wait for him to be lured to the place (or for him to willing walk into the place) where he will understand the need for that discussion. He says today that he is feeling anxious. And though I do know there is not always a reason, I think the combination of dealing with H's accusations (difficult child says H's mom is trying to poison me against him like she has poisoned Diva against him. Diva always believes H's mom.) and the Confirmation lessons along with the Easter season. Good for him to be really thinking about things - but does it have to go so deep as to bring on the anxiety? Want to know something that I think is amazing? He is ahead on his memorization work! He looks at the assignment on the way to school and then for some reason once he gets into the classroom, he is able to memorize anything! And I am talking about long stuff - not just a verse. Think about the Apostle's Creed if you are familiar with it. That is the length of some of his assignments. An article plus it's meaning. He started work on one of them on the way to school on Wednesday and when I picked him up after Confirmation he tells me he got three (3) memories done including this one! Granted, the other two where shorter but still - and he does not have the work with him all day - it stays in the van and I drop it off at church after school. Two Falls ago when he started Confirmation, he was behind by atleast 7 because he just could not do it! We both hate Wednesday because of the memorization. We are both glad it is almost over. Three more memories and he will be done with out of the classroom work (he is the 1st of all the kids to finish the sermon notes needed). His faith is so important to him! [/QUOTE]
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