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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 581777" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I worked at a domestic abuse shelter (volunteer) for a short while, just long enough to learn that many people who are abused as children repeat the pattern over and over again a nd then put up with it because they think they deserve it. Your daughters, husband and his son treat your like dirt and I'm shocked at them all, but that doesn't mean YOU did anything wrong! You didn't! I would go to a domestic abuse shelter to talk to the therapist and seriously consider leaving this dufus of a husband. I live in Wisconsin. If you are near me, drop me a private message. I would be happy to be your friend and on your side. I will be sixty on my next birthday and I feel like I have a lot of life ahead of me and so do you! Why should you waste it on those who abuse you? If you can leave, I would leave and if you can afford it (hub must owe you something for the marriage) go to a healing, soothing place and start a life of peace, harmony and new friends.or I should say friends. Ignore your daughter's references to this event that never happened. If you want to e-mail with her, don't take the bait when she brings it up and only write about less contentious things and maybe make it short and sweet. </p><p>It is never to late to turn your fortunes around. I'm trying hard myself to build a life that does not involve working anymore since I lost my last job in a very troubling way and don't think I want to do the work thing anymore. I am changing everything ABOUT my life to make it hopefully better. I know you can do it too!!!! I've learned that a big extended family really doesn't mean much if you don't love each other. Your true family in my opinion is who loves and respects and appreciates you. Blood means very little in that department. I wanted a big, warm, loving family too once until I noticed that most of the ones that were supposedly like that had so much drama a nd fighting in the background...and a lot of dissension. I stopped wanting that and enjoy my husband and three of my children and my dear friends. My best friend died at 50 of breast cancer...I miss her still...so I know how hard it is to lose a loved one that way. She was more a sister to me than my sister EVER was. I hope my rambling makes some sense here. Do NOT let toxic people destroy me. Even our kids can be toxic. If they are, sometimes we need to move on or at least distance our thoughts from them...we call it Detachment here.</p><p>It is hard for me to make friends and always has been, but I'm doing it and at age 59. You can do it too! I'm very shy and socially inept...lol. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p><p>in my opinion if you go away it makes you SMART!!!! Who cares what THEY think? It's time to become more me-focused and all that matters is what is good for YOU, not what they may think. I have learned to get the hello out of any situation that is bad for me and that has greatly improved my life. I hope you have access to a good therapist who can help you do this, and I also hope that you do this...leave. It is vile that your husband stuck up for your daughter's horrible allegations. I don't know how you can look at him! Kiss him good-bye!!!</p><p>Gentle hugs!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 581777, member: 1550"] I worked at a domestic abuse shelter (volunteer) for a short while, just long enough to learn that many people who are abused as children repeat the pattern over and over again a nd then put up with it because they think they deserve it. Your daughters, husband and his son treat your like dirt and I'm shocked at them all, but that doesn't mean YOU did anything wrong! You didn't! I would go to a domestic abuse shelter to talk to the therapist and seriously consider leaving this dufus of a husband. I live in Wisconsin. If you are near me, drop me a private message. I would be happy to be your friend and on your side. I will be sixty on my next birthday and I feel like I have a lot of life ahead of me and so do you! Why should you waste it on those who abuse you? If you can leave, I would leave and if you can afford it (hub must owe you something for the marriage) go to a healing, soothing place and start a life of peace, harmony and new friends.or I should say friends. Ignore your daughter's references to this event that never happened. If you want to e-mail with her, don't take the bait when she brings it up and only write about less contentious things and maybe make it short and sweet. It is never to late to turn your fortunes around. I'm trying hard myself to build a life that does not involve working anymore since I lost my last job in a very troubling way and don't think I want to do the work thing anymore. I am changing everything ABOUT my life to make it hopefully better. I know you can do it too!!!! I've learned that a big extended family really doesn't mean much if you don't love each other. Your true family in my opinion is who loves and respects and appreciates you. Blood means very little in that department. I wanted a big, warm, loving family too once until I noticed that most of the ones that were supposedly like that had so much drama a nd fighting in the background...and a lot of dissension. I stopped wanting that and enjoy my husband and three of my children and my dear friends. My best friend died at 50 of breast cancer...I miss her still...so I know how hard it is to lose a loved one that way. She was more a sister to me than my sister EVER was. I hope my rambling makes some sense here. Do NOT let toxic people destroy me. Even our kids can be toxic. If they are, sometimes we need to move on or at least distance our thoughts from them...we call it Detachment here. It is hard for me to make friends and always has been, but I'm doing it and at age 59. You can do it too! I'm very shy and socially inept...lol. :) in my opinion if you go away it makes you SMART!!!! Who cares what THEY think? It's time to become more me-focused and all that matters is what is good for YOU, not what they may think. I have learned to get the hello out of any situation that is bad for me and that has greatly improved my life. I hope you have access to a good therapist who can help you do this, and I also hope that you do this...leave. It is vile that your husband stuck up for your daughter's horrible allegations. I don't know how you can look at him! Kiss him good-bye!!! Gentle hugs! [/QUOTE]
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