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<blockquote data-quote="TerryJ2" data-source="post: 567541" data-attributes="member: 3419"><p>You are not alone, Dst_99.</p><p></p><p>You don't have to stop showing emotion. But you do have to stop feeling like you owe your teenager daughter anything. Long ago, I made the decision to do the right thing for my difficult child son, no matter how much he said he hated me, no matter how much he yelled. Because if he was going to be obnoxious anyway, why not do the right thing?</p><p>It has worked much better than I anticipated. Which sometimes isn't a whole lot. But reading the notes on this board has given me hope.</p><p>And every now and then, there is a ray of hope from my son, too.</p><p>Do NOT let her make you feel this way. Maybe being a robot around HER and not around everyone else will work. I have often pretended that my son was just the TV on a horrid, loud station so that I could detach.</p><p>And detachment is just what you need right now. And rhino skin.</p><p>Please, do not give up on your own therapy. You have earned it, you deserve to take care of yourself.</p><p></p><p>And make a point to take your youngest out once a wk, just the two of you, alone, for lunch or a movie or a walk. Talk about her classes, her friends, fun books, something that shows her you care about her. </p><p></p><p>I totally agree with-DF that you have to draw boundaries.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TerryJ2, post: 567541, member: 3419"] You are not alone, Dst_99. You don't have to stop showing emotion. But you do have to stop feeling like you owe your teenager daughter anything. Long ago, I made the decision to do the right thing for my difficult child son, no matter how much he said he hated me, no matter how much he yelled. Because if he was going to be obnoxious anyway, why not do the right thing? It has worked much better than I anticipated. Which sometimes isn't a whole lot. But reading the notes on this board has given me hope. And every now and then, there is a ray of hope from my son, too. Do NOT let her make you feel this way. Maybe being a robot around HER and not around everyone else will work. I have often pretended that my son was just the TV on a horrid, loud station so that I could detach. And detachment is just what you need right now. And rhino skin. Please, do not give up on your own therapy. You have earned it, you deserve to take care of yourself. And make a point to take your youngest out once a wk, just the two of you, alone, for lunch or a movie or a walk. Talk about her classes, her friends, fun books, something that shows her you care about her. I totally agree with-DF that you have to draw boundaries. [/QUOTE]
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