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I think I'm done.... I can't live a lie
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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 696183" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Colleen. I am sorry. But, I too, am hopeful for your son and for you. This needed to happen. What happened, is you hit bottom.</p><p></p><p>You do not have the illusion anymore that anything you do will influence him.</p><p></p><p>You have faced the ugly truth, without hiding. </p><p></p><p>These are good things. </p><p></p><p>Nothing, I mean, nothing, has changed with him. It is you who has changed. You are no longer hiding. From the truth.</p><p></p><p>There is not one bad thing in any of this. It bodes well for you and for your son. Because he is hiding from himself, too. Now that you see him and he knows it, there is freedom there--for him. Because he will soon face that the consequences, and the potential solutions are in him, not you.</p><p></p><p>I for one do not believe in the beautiful stories that people tell about their kids. I do not think they lie--but they may lie to themselves. There is no life--none at all--that does not have its time of pain, of shame, of darkness. </p><p></p><p>By letting go of your sense of shame, you will help your son--because he will see it as your belief in him--that he is still the same person, with the same potential.</p><p></p><p>Think about it. He is the same person. He has a problem. A big one. But it is not so big that he cannot come to grips with it. He can. </p><p></p><p>Your feelings about him are important. He will take his cues from you. </p><p></p><p>Personally, the viewpoint you are adopting, Craft, seems very wise. I will now go and google it.</p><p></p><p>Colleen. You are to be admired for your growth.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 696183, member: 18958"] Colleen. I am sorry. But, I too, am hopeful for your son and for you. This needed to happen. What happened, is you hit bottom. You do not have the illusion anymore that anything you do will influence him. You have faced the ugly truth, without hiding. These are good things. Nothing, I mean, nothing, has changed with him. It is you who has changed. You are no longer hiding. From the truth. There is not one bad thing in any of this. It bodes well for you and for your son. Because he is hiding from himself, too. Now that you see him and he knows it, there is freedom there--for him. Because he will soon face that the consequences, and the potential solutions are in him, not you. I for one do not believe in the beautiful stories that people tell about their kids. I do not think they lie--but they may lie to themselves. There is no life--none at all--that does not have its time of pain, of shame, of darkness. By letting go of your sense of shame, you will help your son--because he will see it as your belief in him--that he is still the same person, with the same potential. Think about it. He is the same person. He has a problem. A big one. But it is not so big that he cannot come to grips with it. He can. Your feelings about him are important. He will take his cues from you. Personally, the viewpoint you are adopting, Craft, seems very wise. I will now go and google it. Colleen. You are to be admired for your growth. [/QUOTE]
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