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<blockquote data-quote="Andy" data-source="post: 168406" data-attributes="member: 5096"><p>I see that you have anxiety - I wonder if your fears are feeding into that? It is extremely scary waiting to figure out any medical issue. You must have all sorts of wild "what ifs" going through your head. When those scary thoughts come up, breathe in and out deeply. Don't let them take over.</p><p> </p><p>You know your children and you love them as they are. What more will a diagnosis add but possibly give you more tools to help them through life?</p><p> </p><p>So, you may get a diagnosis that you do not want, but you will also get more help in managing the behaviour your children. Isn't that a positive side of this nightmare? The sooner a diagnosis is made, the sooner help can be given.</p><p> </p><p>When my difficult child became a difficult child, I was terrified because I have worked in a state behavioral health facility and have seen only the very acute mental health patients. I had to come to terms telling myself that the people I work with are only a small percentage of people with these diagnosis - there are many people out there who have learned to live with their disability and have a happy life. So, I am focusing on preparing my difficult child for a life with a diagnosis that scares people but knowing it is up to him to overcome (or just stay on top of) it.</p><p> </p><p>Try not to be afraid of a diagnosis because your children have it now and it is just not yet named. And you still love your kids and have plans to prepare them for adulthood. </p><p> </p><p>This board will help as much as we can. Come here often and post your daily issues - Input you get here will help you through this.</p><p> </p><p>I do understand, I still have moments of extreme fear over my difficult child's diagnosis - we have yet to figure him out beyond extreme anxiety. I also ask, "What will happen if ......" I try to ignore these moments and just focus on the good behaviors he is exhibiting or managing the moment - the future will be here too soon - I have to do what I can now.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Andy, post: 168406, member: 5096"] I see that you have anxiety - I wonder if your fears are feeding into that? It is extremely scary waiting to figure out any medical issue. You must have all sorts of wild "what ifs" going through your head. When those scary thoughts come up, breathe in and out deeply. Don't let them take over. You know your children and you love them as they are. What more will a diagnosis add but possibly give you more tools to help them through life? So, you may get a diagnosis that you do not want, but you will also get more help in managing the behaviour your children. Isn't that a positive side of this nightmare? The sooner a diagnosis is made, the sooner help can be given. When my difficult child became a difficult child, I was terrified because I have worked in a state behavioral health facility and have seen only the very acute mental health patients. I had to come to terms telling myself that the people I work with are only a small percentage of people with these diagnosis - there are many people out there who have learned to live with their disability and have a happy life. So, I am focusing on preparing my difficult child for a life with a diagnosis that scares people but knowing it is up to him to overcome (or just stay on top of) it. Try not to be afraid of a diagnosis because your children have it now and it is just not yet named. And you still love your kids and have plans to prepare them for adulthood. This board will help as much as we can. Come here often and post your daily issues - Input you get here will help you through this. I do understand, I still have moments of extreme fear over my difficult child's diagnosis - we have yet to figure him out beyond extreme anxiety. I also ask, "What will happen if ......" I try to ignore these moments and just focus on the good behaviors he is exhibiting or managing the moment - the future will be here too soon - I have to do what I can now. [/QUOTE]
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