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"I want M. to die. And I want mommy to die too." My Grandson
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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 588240" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>It sounds like it is time for Mr. 35 to dip into his savings or drastically pare his expenditures down to the bone and get a lawyer and therapist on board for this little one. Going with-o a lawyer is insane. If you can, offer to help him make a budget if that would help. He needs to see how serious this is. It is HIGHLY disturbing that a 5yo would say these things. Most five year olds would not EVER say they want Mommy to die. It is a sign of MAJOR problems. </p><p></p><p>If he won't do a budget, maybe suggest taking the five year old to a DV center or report suspected abuse based on his actions. They will do a forensic interview with yuor grandson and will try to figure out what is going on without putting words in his mouth or harming him. </p><p></p><p>This statement and his behaviors are so unusual that in my opinion he NEEDS a professional and if your son ignores this and/or does not get the help his son needs, he will be neglecting the boy and possibly putting him in a very dangerous set of circumstances. For an attorney, he could cancel his tv, cut his phone plan, get an emergency loan against his retirement account, any of a number of things. He could likely even get a bank loan if he asked. His son is showing signs of severe problems and if he does not do what is needed to get as close to full custody as possible, then anything his son goes through past that point is partly his fault for not fighting more. Yes, it is a harsh stance, but how much harsher is it to send your child to a mother he wants to die rather than fight tooth and nail with every single penny you can get your hands on?? What is more important? You can make more money, but you cnnot always repair the damage that abuse causes. </p><p></p><p>Has he even spoken to an atty or child psychologist about these issues? Or looked at what his employee benefits are? Many companies offer prepaid legal help and/or an employee assistance program. The EAP gives you around 3 free meetings with a therapist or other specialist to help you resolve any and all problems. husband and I have had help with more than a few personal and/or marital problems, legal help, budgeting help, etc... from different employers over the years. He may say he doesn't have this or that, but had he really looked at the employee handbook or asked HR? I found that many of the officers at several companies were completely unaware of more than a few of their benefits. Sometimes they were with the company so long it didn't occur to them that these things could be available and others just never bothered to read any memos. </p><p></p><p>If your son truly cannot afford an attorney or help from his son, the boy's behavior shows disturbing red flags and a DV center should be able to help. If money i s that tight, there are people that can help if he will only ask. </p><p></p><p>Sending cyber hugs and the protection of my strongest Warrior Mom RhinoSkin to help keep that sweet little boy safe and healthy in every way.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 588240, member: 1233"] It sounds like it is time for Mr. 35 to dip into his savings or drastically pare his expenditures down to the bone and get a lawyer and therapist on board for this little one. Going with-o a lawyer is insane. If you can, offer to help him make a budget if that would help. He needs to see how serious this is. It is HIGHLY disturbing that a 5yo would say these things. Most five year olds would not EVER say they want Mommy to die. It is a sign of MAJOR problems. If he won't do a budget, maybe suggest taking the five year old to a DV center or report suspected abuse based on his actions. They will do a forensic interview with yuor grandson and will try to figure out what is going on without putting words in his mouth or harming him. This statement and his behaviors are so unusual that in my opinion he NEEDS a professional and if your son ignores this and/or does not get the help his son needs, he will be neglecting the boy and possibly putting him in a very dangerous set of circumstances. For an attorney, he could cancel his tv, cut his phone plan, get an emergency loan against his retirement account, any of a number of things. He could likely even get a bank loan if he asked. His son is showing signs of severe problems and if he does not do what is needed to get as close to full custody as possible, then anything his son goes through past that point is partly his fault for not fighting more. Yes, it is a harsh stance, but how much harsher is it to send your child to a mother he wants to die rather than fight tooth and nail with every single penny you can get your hands on?? What is more important? You can make more money, but you cnnot always repair the damage that abuse causes. Has he even spoken to an atty or child psychologist about these issues? Or looked at what his employee benefits are? Many companies offer prepaid legal help and/or an employee assistance program. The EAP gives you around 3 free meetings with a therapist or other specialist to help you resolve any and all problems. husband and I have had help with more than a few personal and/or marital problems, legal help, budgeting help, etc... from different employers over the years. He may say he doesn't have this or that, but had he really looked at the employee handbook or asked HR? I found that many of the officers at several companies were completely unaware of more than a few of their benefits. Sometimes they were with the company so long it didn't occur to them that these things could be available and others just never bothered to read any memos. If your son truly cannot afford an attorney or help from his son, the boy's behavior shows disturbing red flags and a DV center should be able to help. If money i s that tight, there are people that can help if he will only ask. Sending cyber hugs and the protection of my strongest Warrior Mom RhinoSkin to help keep that sweet little boy safe and healthy in every way. [/QUOTE]
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