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<blockquote data-quote="Otto von Bismark" data-source="post: 466170" data-attributes="member: 12905"><p>This sounds terribly frustrating for you and for your son. I don't have particular experience with that learning issue, but we do have several kids each with different academic needs. I currently have one in a difficult college prep private school, one who doesn't do well in school (completely uninspired, hates the time-wasting, is very driven to do things outside of school, such as train horses and make money) so we homeschool her, and one is in a fantastic school specifically for special educational/behavioral needs. I did not find their individual learning needs were ever met in public school, not even the gifted ones, and we tried several -- Special Education clusters, gifted programs, neighborhood schools, IEP after IEP. </p><p>We have learned how to make use of scholarships.</p><p></p><p>What I am saying is that you shouldn't try too hard to be nice if the school isn't interested in helping. There may be a better option somewhere. Be assertive,get the services that you need, but it's okay at some point, to realize that this particular school might not work. I am all for finding a school that fits your child's needs. To me, when I hear, "I want to work with him, but..." that is always a sign that they don't really want to or know how to work with him. Our state has a scholarship that helps kids with IEP pay for a private school, or other public school that will help them. If you feel that they are not equipped to help your child, find another school who does know how to address his particular needs. I don't think you always have to settle, unless you live in a small area.</p><p></p><p>I am sure there are ways to advocate for getting a good IEP in place in this current school, and having legal representation to make sure his needs are met, but don't be as nice as I was about it. I was waaaayyy too sweet -- I just thought they were the experts and knew what they were doing and we had a lot of heartache and wasted time waiting for a school to accommodate our child.</p><p></p><p>We had several last straws -- one of them was when my son was in kindergarten and could barely understand anything that was being said -- he was not yet diagnosed, even though I was screaming at them that he had autism and needed to be tested. They had a field day towards the end of the school year. We live in a dangerously hot place. The teacher told all the kids to go to their backpacks, get out their bottled water and sunscreen, and line up to go outside. My son did not understand, it looked like he was not complying, so they let him go outside all day with no sunscreen and no water as his punishment. He was burned and dehydrated and sick when he got home. This was the beginning of my realizing that we had to shepherd most of his educational issues ourselves, as that school, as well as other public ones we tried, didn't work for us.</p><p></p><p>Keep us posted.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Otto von Bismark, post: 466170, member: 12905"] This sounds terribly frustrating for you and for your son. I don't have particular experience with that learning issue, but we do have several kids each with different academic needs. I currently have one in a difficult college prep private school, one who doesn't do well in school (completely uninspired, hates the time-wasting, is very driven to do things outside of school, such as train horses and make money) so we homeschool her, and one is in a fantastic school specifically for special educational/behavioral needs. I did not find their individual learning needs were ever met in public school, not even the gifted ones, and we tried several -- Special Education clusters, gifted programs, neighborhood schools, IEP after IEP. We have learned how to make use of scholarships. What I am saying is that you shouldn't try too hard to be nice if the school isn't interested in helping. There may be a better option somewhere. Be assertive,get the services that you need, but it's okay at some point, to realize that this particular school might not work. I am all for finding a school that fits your child's needs. To me, when I hear, "I want to work with him, but..." that is always a sign that they don't really want to or know how to work with him. Our state has a scholarship that helps kids with IEP pay for a private school, or other public school that will help them. If you feel that they are not equipped to help your child, find another school who does know how to address his particular needs. I don't think you always have to settle, unless you live in a small area. I am sure there are ways to advocate for getting a good IEP in place in this current school, and having legal representation to make sure his needs are met, but don't be as nice as I was about it. I was waaaayyy too sweet -- I just thought they were the experts and knew what they were doing and we had a lot of heartache and wasted time waiting for a school to accommodate our child. We had several last straws -- one of them was when my son was in kindergarten and could barely understand anything that was being said -- he was not yet diagnosed, even though I was screaming at them that he had autism and needed to be tested. They had a field day towards the end of the school year. We live in a dangerously hot place. The teacher told all the kids to go to their backpacks, get out their bottled water and sunscreen, and line up to go outside. My son did not understand, it looked like he was not complying, so they let him go outside all day with no sunscreen and no water as his punishment. He was burned and dehydrated and sick when he got home. This was the beginning of my realizing that we had to shepherd most of his educational issues ourselves, as that school, as well as other public ones we tried, didn't work for us. Keep us posted. [/QUOTE]
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