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<blockquote data-quote="hersheyb79" data-source="post: 466420" data-attributes="member: 11482"><p>There is a lot of information! Thank you so much for the help. I have some more questions, I'll preface them by saying his P-DR is HORRIBLE. He has not done any testing, he hasn't mentioned doing any other tests at all and the same office is where he was seeing a therapist who "fired" my son for not wanting to change (call me when your kid actually wants to change is what he said to me). I have looked into Children's Hospital, but they said they only way to get him help is to bring him in though the ER and have him held on a psychiatric hold. He is on the wait list for an out patient psychiatric evaluation , but it's a year wait they said.</p><p></p><p>1) We haven't had much testing done outside of the school. He had some early childhood evaluations, but he always tests very well one on one. In preschool the director said it didn't matter that the evaluation came back that he didn't need more help because it was obvious he did and she approved the 1 on 1 aid. His P-DR says he doesn't have Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD). I personally don't believe him. If you spent any time with him you'd understand why. How can I get him tested for these different thing? Will the school do it or do we have to? I'm very worried about the cost of the tests...but I'll eat ramen for a year to get him help.</p><p></p><p>2) Who am I sending the letter to? Is it the principal or the school district. </p><p></p><p>3) The therapist who kicked my son out of therapy was the case manager on our case with community mental health...so how do I get a copy of the diagnosis? The P-DR says I have to get it from him. I can't get his office to call me back. The school knows about the diagnosis, but I have no proof of it.</p><p></p><p>4) I had heard that once you pull your kid out of public school and home school or private school the district is no longer under the obligation to provide the FAPE any longer. Is that not true? I don't want to pull him and then have to put him back in for some reason and have them deny him the right to a FAPE.</p><p></p><p>5) Is there some magic term I can use when calling private providers that will get him in sooner than 2 years from now? Basically every time I call a new P-DR I am told that unless I want to bring him into an ER and have him admitted we have to wait for the next available apt.</p><p></p><p>I looked into some specialized schools for kids with behavior and Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) issues...but they said that based on his diagnosis the school wouldn't be a good fit for him (either he is too much for some of the schools, or he doesn't have an Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) diagnosis so he doesn't qualify).</p><p></p><p>For those who are critical of the school. It is hard for us because our daughter is thriving there, the class sizes are reasonable, the teachers are nice, she has GTE. Not every school is a fit for every child. I have a feeling that the school isn't used to dealing with cases as sever as my son. Not to say that it is OK how they are treating him, but it's a hard situation to be in.</p><p></p><p>Someone asked what kinds of behaviors so here they are:</p><p>1) Defiant of authority</p><p>2) Tactiley defensive (can't stand being bumped, jostled, touched, or other wise bothered by others)</p><p>3) Perfectionist (loses control when he can't do something just how he believes it should be done)</p><p>4) Rigid adherence to all rules and regulations (lost control because another kid moved something off the classroom board that he wasn't supposed to move).</p><p>5) Explosive anger when things aren't how he expects/wants them to be</p><p>6) Extreme difficulty with change in schedule & transitions</p><p>7) Can't look people in the eye when talking to them</p><p>8) Intense desire to be "normal" (often talks about not wanting to be different, doesn't like when people comment on anything new or different, like a shirt or haircut).</p><p></p><p>Every day with him feels like a slot machine, you pull the handle and it will come up all 7s and he will have a great day, but more often than not no jackpot. I dread the hours between 8-11am because I feel like I am tied to the house waiting for the school to call and have me come get him.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="hersheyb79, post: 466420, member: 11482"] There is a lot of information! Thank you so much for the help. I have some more questions, I'll preface them by saying his P-DR is HORRIBLE. He has not done any testing, he hasn't mentioned doing any other tests at all and the same office is where he was seeing a therapist who "fired" my son for not wanting to change (call me when your kid actually wants to change is what he said to me). I have looked into Children's Hospital, but they said they only way to get him help is to bring him in though the ER and have him held on a psychiatric hold. He is on the wait list for an out patient psychiatric evaluation , but it's a year wait they said. 1) We haven't had much testing done outside of the school. He had some early childhood evaluations, but he always tests very well one on one. In preschool the director said it didn't matter that the evaluation came back that he didn't need more help because it was obvious he did and she approved the 1 on 1 aid. His P-DR says he doesn't have Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD). I personally don't believe him. If you spent any time with him you'd understand why. How can I get him tested for these different thing? Will the school do it or do we have to? I'm very worried about the cost of the tests...but I'll eat ramen for a year to get him help. 2) Who am I sending the letter to? Is it the principal or the school district. 3) The therapist who kicked my son out of therapy was the case manager on our case with community mental health...so how do I get a copy of the diagnosis? The P-DR says I have to get it from him. I can't get his office to call me back. The school knows about the diagnosis, but I have no proof of it. 4) I had heard that once you pull your kid out of public school and home school or private school the district is no longer under the obligation to provide the FAPE any longer. Is that not true? I don't want to pull him and then have to put him back in for some reason and have them deny him the right to a FAPE. 5) Is there some magic term I can use when calling private providers that will get him in sooner than 2 years from now? Basically every time I call a new P-DR I am told that unless I want to bring him into an ER and have him admitted we have to wait for the next available apt. I looked into some specialized schools for kids with behavior and Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) issues...but they said that based on his diagnosis the school wouldn't be a good fit for him (either he is too much for some of the schools, or he doesn't have an Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) diagnosis so he doesn't qualify). For those who are critical of the school. It is hard for us because our daughter is thriving there, the class sizes are reasonable, the teachers are nice, she has GTE. Not every school is a fit for every child. I have a feeling that the school isn't used to dealing with cases as sever as my son. Not to say that it is OK how they are treating him, but it's a hard situation to be in. Someone asked what kinds of behaviors so here they are: 1) Defiant of authority 2) Tactiley defensive (can't stand being bumped, jostled, touched, or other wise bothered by others) 3) Perfectionist (loses control when he can't do something just how he believes it should be done) 4) Rigid adherence to all rules and regulations (lost control because another kid moved something off the classroom board that he wasn't supposed to move). 5) Explosive anger when things aren't how he expects/wants them to be 6) Extreme difficulty with change in schedule & transitions 7) Can't look people in the eye when talking to them 8) Intense desire to be "normal" (often talks about not wanting to be different, doesn't like when people comment on anything new or different, like a shirt or haircut). Every day with him feels like a slot machine, you pull the handle and it will come up all 7s and he will have a great day, but more often than not no jackpot. I dread the hours between 8-11am because I feel like I am tied to the house waiting for the school to call and have me come get him. [/QUOTE]
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