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<blockquote data-quote="hersheyb79" data-source="post: 466503" data-attributes="member: 11482"><p>I'll tell you...it's kind of a weird story why not, so bear with me. I have a friend who had 2 bipolar kids, she also just got her degree as a psychologist and is working on her masters. She dragged me with her to this class a week after school started about explosive kids. I am not oblivious to the fact that parents were not the intended audience of this training...but I decided to go, I figured if I could glean anything from it, the training wouldn't be a waste.</p><p></p><p>Well, they basically talked about how 99% of these types of kids are abused or neglected, exposed to drugs in-utero, raised by bad parents, adopted by people who don't care about them, etc. Now, my son is not adopted, but our baby is, and we are foster parents. We do not take any kids over 1yo, specifically at my son's request. We had to disrupt a very long term placement because of DS's behavior, and it broke our hearts. It was what was best for our foster son, and so that's why we did it. Since that time, we've taken babies, and he is fine with them.</p><p></p><p>Any way, sitting there, I felt like...wow, is this how professionals see me? As an abusive parent who has caused these problems. Do they assume I do drugs or beat him? WTH?!?!? So now when I consider taking him to the ER it runs though my mind. Being a foster parent, it scares me that I might be perceived as abusing my child. I have seen DHS from an unflattering angle and I'm not sure I want to be on the other side of things.</p><p></p><p>So I know that is REALLY paranoid. But that is what has prevented me from taking him in. FWIW, my friend who took me to the training did speak with the trainer. Her kids deal with a lot of the same thing my son does...so she was pretty ****** off too. </p><p></p><p>So now I need someone to answer this question...</p><p></p><p>When DS was 2 he was diagnosis'd with sensory processing disorder (SPD) and received Occupational Therapist (OT) though ECI. When he turned 3 he was re-evaluated, he had to test at 7% of normal to re-qualify, he tested at 11% <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite3" alt=":(" title="Frown :(" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":(" /> Again, alone in a room with 4 adults, all praising him and being very quiet...he of course tested very well.</p><p></p><p>Anyway, I assumed that when he no longer qualified for services that the diagnosis went away. Is that not the case (does the diagnosis still count)? He is treated at school for sensory issues...he gets a weighted blanket, headphones to put on to block noise, time out of the class to jump on a trampoline. Now, one of his huge problems is that he wants to be normal, so he very much resists anything that the entire class is not doing. </p><p></p><p>I have not asked DS's PCD for a referral. We have a PPO, so the doctor resists doing referrals, he prefers to have us pick someone we've checked out...or give us names so we can look into them (I know he sounds bad, but he's the best doctor in the world. He really listens and cares, and never speaks to me like I'm stupid!). He will in cases where he feels it is very urgent, so he will probably do it for me. He did make a referral for the baby when she needed to see the neurologist ASAP. I just hadn't thought to ask to be honest, we never see him for DS, because DS physically is not ever sick.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="hersheyb79, post: 466503, member: 11482"] I'll tell you...it's kind of a weird story why not, so bear with me. I have a friend who had 2 bipolar kids, she also just got her degree as a psychologist and is working on her masters. She dragged me with her to this class a week after school started about explosive kids. I am not oblivious to the fact that parents were not the intended audience of this training...but I decided to go, I figured if I could glean anything from it, the training wouldn't be a waste. Well, they basically talked about how 99% of these types of kids are abused or neglected, exposed to drugs in-utero, raised by bad parents, adopted by people who don't care about them, etc. Now, my son is not adopted, but our baby is, and we are foster parents. We do not take any kids over 1yo, specifically at my son's request. We had to disrupt a very long term placement because of DS's behavior, and it broke our hearts. It was what was best for our foster son, and so that's why we did it. Since that time, we've taken babies, and he is fine with them. Any way, sitting there, I felt like...wow, is this how professionals see me? As an abusive parent who has caused these problems. Do they assume I do drugs or beat him? WTH?!?!? So now when I consider taking him to the ER it runs though my mind. Being a foster parent, it scares me that I might be perceived as abusing my child. I have seen DHS from an unflattering angle and I'm not sure I want to be on the other side of things. So I know that is REALLY paranoid. But that is what has prevented me from taking him in. FWIW, my friend who took me to the training did speak with the trainer. Her kids deal with a lot of the same thing my son does...so she was pretty ****** off too. So now I need someone to answer this question... When DS was 2 he was diagnosis'd with sensory processing disorder (SPD) and received Occupational Therapist (OT) though ECI. When he turned 3 he was re-evaluated, he had to test at 7% of normal to re-qualify, he tested at 11% :( Again, alone in a room with 4 adults, all praising him and being very quiet...he of course tested very well. Anyway, I assumed that when he no longer qualified for services that the diagnosis went away. Is that not the case (does the diagnosis still count)? He is treated at school for sensory issues...he gets a weighted blanket, headphones to put on to block noise, time out of the class to jump on a trampoline. Now, one of his huge problems is that he wants to be normal, so he very much resists anything that the entire class is not doing. I have not asked DS's PCD for a referral. We have a PPO, so the doctor resists doing referrals, he prefers to have us pick someone we've checked out...or give us names so we can look into them (I know he sounds bad, but he's the best doctor in the world. He really listens and cares, and never speaks to me like I'm stupid!). He will in cases where he feels it is very urgent, so he will probably do it for me. He did make a referral for the baby when she needed to see the neurologist ASAP. I just hadn't thought to ask to be honest, we never see him for DS, because DS physically is not ever sick. [/QUOTE]
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