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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 696798" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>First the bad news, at least from my point of view. I don't feel it's good for house manager to call your son a baby, unless he means he acts like one. Most 20 year Olds are working full time or in the armed forces (baby?) Or in third year of college. My 20 year old daughter, who won't even try pot...never has) will be finishing her major this year and will be going to the a police Academy. She also works full time now while it is summer break and does not complain or ask for help.</p><p></p><p>20 is NOT a baby. In another year your son can legally drink, unlike a baby. I don't think it helps our underdeveloped kids, and i have one, to try to pretend they are so young. Most 20 year olds are perhaps immature at times, but still on their ways. So I don't think it's helpful to see them as babies. I married at 20 and worked full time.</p><p></p><p>I just don't buy it.</p><p></p><p>Of course, my philosophy, which did work for my daughter (although everyone is different) is to cut back and let them do it. Eating out when you have no money in my opinion is lazy. Buy food and eat at home. Go to a food pantry. Go to the Salvation Army. If they just impulsively eat out, which is instant gratification and no work, how is that maturing? People can't afford to just eat out. What about food stamps? Eating out is expensive, more so than other options they have.</p><p></p><p>I admit I'm opinionated. I see parents here continue to send money to their kids all the time and the kids don't use it wisely because they don't have to. Enough comes in from mom and dad so that if they want dinner out, they do it. They don't learn to budget or sacrifice, which are skills adults need. Some of the money could go for drugs.</p><p></p><p>Your son has already blown through many chances to get sober.</p><p>in my opinion it has to be harder for him to continue his lifestyle or it can go.on indefinitely. They need to be hurting so bad that the lifestyle is no longer worth it.</p><p></p><p>Do you have so much money you can indefinitely support this?</p><p></p><p>Yes, I know very tender hearted moms are going to disregard this and think it's too harsh, for which I am sorry, but MY DAUGHTER QUIT. At the baby age of 19 she was tired of doing it . it was too hard. I am always amazed at cars being sent or weekly checks for food. $20 a week is more than enough for Ramen noodles and peanut butter and bread. And since food can be had for free...well, I feel it's good for them if they have to walk back and forth to food pantries and free meals.</p><p></p><p>Okay, so now I probably ticked everyone off, but i felt the need to use my voice and state my opinion. Nobody needs to listen to me. I just feel that the counselor is wrong about the baby stuff</p><p></p><p>If our boys fight in the military at 18, and many do, I think it's a real stretch to call 20 a baby. Yes, their brains may still develop, but the fact is most have started launching by 20. I just don't think most people don't do anything with their lives until age 25. I think we need to let our young adults figure it out mostly on their own or they may not learn how.</p><p></p><p>I hope my opinions did not offend anyone. Truly sorry if anything did. Vent over. Duck taping my big mouth now.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 696798, member: 1550"] First the bad news, at least from my point of view. I don't feel it's good for house manager to call your son a baby, unless he means he acts like one. Most 20 year Olds are working full time or in the armed forces (baby?) Or in third year of college. My 20 year old daughter, who won't even try pot...never has) will be finishing her major this year and will be going to the a police Academy. She also works full time now while it is summer break and does not complain or ask for help. 20 is NOT a baby. In another year your son can legally drink, unlike a baby. I don't think it helps our underdeveloped kids, and i have one, to try to pretend they are so young. Most 20 year olds are perhaps immature at times, but still on their ways. So I don't think it's helpful to see them as babies. I married at 20 and worked full time. I just don't buy it. Of course, my philosophy, which did work for my daughter (although everyone is different) is to cut back and let them do it. Eating out when you have no money in my opinion is lazy. Buy food and eat at home. Go to a food pantry. Go to the Salvation Army. If they just impulsively eat out, which is instant gratification and no work, how is that maturing? People can't afford to just eat out. What about food stamps? Eating out is expensive, more so than other options they have. I admit I'm opinionated. I see parents here continue to send money to their kids all the time and the kids don't use it wisely because they don't have to. Enough comes in from mom and dad so that if they want dinner out, they do it. They don't learn to budget or sacrifice, which are skills adults need. Some of the money could go for drugs. Your son has already blown through many chances to get sober. in my opinion it has to be harder for him to continue his lifestyle or it can go.on indefinitely. They need to be hurting so bad that the lifestyle is no longer worth it. Do you have so much money you can indefinitely support this? Yes, I know very tender hearted moms are going to disregard this and think it's too harsh, for which I am sorry, but MY DAUGHTER QUIT. At the baby age of 19 she was tired of doing it . it was too hard. I am always amazed at cars being sent or weekly checks for food. $20 a week is more than enough for Ramen noodles and peanut butter and bread. And since food can be had for free...well, I feel it's good for them if they have to walk back and forth to food pantries and free meals. Okay, so now I probably ticked everyone off, but i felt the need to use my voice and state my opinion. Nobody needs to listen to me. I just feel that the counselor is wrong about the baby stuff If our boys fight in the military at 18, and many do, I think it's a real stretch to call 20 a baby. Yes, their brains may still develop, but the fact is most have started launching by 20. I just don't think most people don't do anything with their lives until age 25. I think we need to let our young adults figure it out mostly on their own or they may not learn how. I hope my opinions did not offend anyone. Truly sorry if anything did. Vent over. Duck taping my big mouth now. [/QUOTE]
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