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<blockquote data-quote="gcvmom" data-source="post: 223471" data-attributes="member: 3444"><p>I told husband when he got home that although I cannot fault the kids and mother in law/father in law for wanting to visit with eachother (they haven't seen them since our trip with them in June), it's just not good to have company on a school night. The kids are off for two weeks starting Monday, so they can visit as much as they like then. </p><p> </p><p>He at least acknowledged that it probably wasn't a good idea for him to have invited them to this event tonight because he realizes how difficult things are for difficult child 2 and sometimes difficult child 1. Homework is an issue for them both this year, and husband is finally seeing why I have to be so strict with their routines. Plus, I have difficult child 2 do his work in the dining room, which is where the computer is, it's visible from the kitchen and I can keep tabs on him and still get some things done. And since it's open to the livingroom where the TV is, we cannot have it on. So the house really has to be quiet when he's working. Fortunately, difficult child 1 works best in his room, and is fairly independent that way, but he will not start his work without being prompted. If they were both like easy child, it would not be a big deal (she gets everything done in a snap and can work just about anywhere). But they're not. And it is.</p><p> </p><p>I just get so uptight when the in-laws are here (one) and on a school night (two) -- I am torn between trying to be polite and not ignore them, and trying to help my kids stay focused and on task. I tried my best to remain calm and told myself that I don't have to explain or apologize or adjust a thing. They are on my turf and as such, my priorities come first. I don't have to sit and chat with them. I don't have to entertain them. And it's not my problem if they are bored. This is my life. It's not a party. (And these are the folks whose only joy in life now is going to casinos -- no doubt they'll drag husband down to the one south of here before they head back to Texas). </p><p> </p><p>And TM, you're right, they are older and they have completely lost touch with the realities of running a household (actually, I don't think they did so great a job running their own household... but that's a whole other story!) And to tell you the truth, I don't think they really care much about it, either, because otherwise they'd try to be a bit more sensitive. I mean my own mother realizes how challenging things are here -- and she KNOWS better than to even try to call me between the hours of 3:00 and 6:00pm!</p><p> </p><p>Anyway, they went to the team pizza party with us -- I was very busy doing all my team mom stuff and husband took them and difficult child 2 home early because they had to get over to sister in law#2's tonight. Just as well.</p><p> </p><p>So everyone's finally in bed. Most of the homework got finished. And I'm going to go take something for my neck that got really stiff from all this stress tonight, and go to bed!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="gcvmom, post: 223471, member: 3444"] I told husband when he got home that although I cannot fault the kids and mother in law/father in law for wanting to visit with eachother (they haven't seen them since our trip with them in June), it's just not good to have company on a school night. The kids are off for two weeks starting Monday, so they can visit as much as they like then. He at least acknowledged that it probably wasn't a good idea for him to have invited them to this event tonight because he realizes how difficult things are for difficult child 2 and sometimes difficult child 1. Homework is an issue for them both this year, and husband is finally seeing why I have to be so strict with their routines. Plus, I have difficult child 2 do his work in the dining room, which is where the computer is, it's visible from the kitchen and I can keep tabs on him and still get some things done. And since it's open to the livingroom where the TV is, we cannot have it on. So the house really has to be quiet when he's working. Fortunately, difficult child 1 works best in his room, and is fairly independent that way, but he will not start his work without being prompted. If they were both like easy child, it would not be a big deal (she gets everything done in a snap and can work just about anywhere). But they're not. And it is. I just get so uptight when the in-laws are here (one) and on a school night (two) -- I am torn between trying to be polite and not ignore them, and trying to help my kids stay focused and on task. I tried my best to remain calm and told myself that I don't have to explain or apologize or adjust a thing. They are on my turf and as such, my priorities come first. I don't have to sit and chat with them. I don't have to entertain them. And it's not my problem if they are bored. This is my life. It's not a party. (And these are the folks whose only joy in life now is going to casinos -- no doubt they'll drag husband down to the one south of here before they head back to Texas). And TM, you're right, they are older and they have completely lost touch with the realities of running a household (actually, I don't think they did so great a job running their own household... but that's a whole other story!) And to tell you the truth, I don't think they really care much about it, either, because otherwise they'd try to be a bit more sensitive. I mean my own mother realizes how challenging things are here -- and she KNOWS better than to even try to call me between the hours of 3:00 and 6:00pm! Anyway, they went to the team pizza party with us -- I was very busy doing all my team mom stuff and husband took them and difficult child 2 home early because they had to get over to sister in law#2's tonight. Just as well. So everyone's finally in bed. Most of the homework got finished. And I'm going to go take something for my neck that got really stiff from all this stress tonight, and go to bed! [/QUOTE]
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