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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 565268" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>I know it's difficult for you in France, Malika. You have a lot to teach them, I would go carefully but proactively. Perhaps introduce a communication book, and also ask them to not talk about him like this, in front of him. He needs positive reinforcement, not negativity. if he's having a bad day, piling on te negativitywill not help him. Instead, ask them to work on redirection, then praise when they catch him doing something good.</p><p></p><p>The feedback in itself was actually really good. You're not meant to apologise for your kid (even if you feel that's what they want from you). Retrain the staff to your measure. Instead of feeling like you should apologise, go into "I'm with you on the professional team" mode. Walk through their day with them (out of earshot of J). Thank them for the feedback (no matter how you feel about their motives). Let them know if there are any possible factors you can think of. Ask them what he ate today, in case there are some possible dietary factors to consider such as caffeine intake - sometimes our kids get caffeine when they shouldn't, people feed their kids cola drinks and coffee, or energy bars, and it can be enough to set them off. difficult child 1 used to also react to oranges and orange juice. Ask them about distraction factors, ask them what they think works and what they think does not. Show respect for their professionalism (even if you feel they're being unprofessional) and you will have a greater chance of engaging them in doing what you need them to try, for J.</p><p></p><p>And I'm sorry to tell you, it does get worse. But then it gets better.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 565268, member: 1991"] I know it's difficult for you in France, Malika. You have a lot to teach them, I would go carefully but proactively. Perhaps introduce a communication book, and also ask them to not talk about him like this, in front of him. He needs positive reinforcement, not negativity. if he's having a bad day, piling on te negativitywill not help him. Instead, ask them to work on redirection, then praise when they catch him doing something good. The feedback in itself was actually really good. You're not meant to apologise for your kid (even if you feel that's what they want from you). Retrain the staff to your measure. Instead of feeling like you should apologise, go into "I'm with you on the professional team" mode. Walk through their day with them (out of earshot of J). Thank them for the feedback (no matter how you feel about their motives). Let them know if there are any possible factors you can think of. Ask them what he ate today, in case there are some possible dietary factors to consider such as caffeine intake - sometimes our kids get caffeine when they shouldn't, people feed their kids cola drinks and coffee, or energy bars, and it can be enough to set them off. difficult child 1 used to also react to oranges and orange juice. Ask them about distraction factors, ask them what they think works and what they think does not. Show respect for their professionalism (even if you feel they're being unprofessional) and you will have a greater chance of engaging them in doing what you need them to try, for J. And I'm sorry to tell you, it does get worse. But then it gets better. Marg [/QUOTE]
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