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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 565322" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I would be VERY hesitant to introduce the term ODD in reference to J. France seems to be stuck in the thought that kids choose to behave in ways that are not what is expected/desired of them, rather than to have reached the conclusion that kids do well <em>when they can</em>. Giving them something that pretty much says that he is doing this because he wants to will backfire hugely. Of course I know and you know that ODD isn't just a simple choice a child makes. I don't think that this is widely recognized in France. Simply having the terms oppositional and defiant applied to J will likely gain a LOT of backlash etc..</p><p></p><p>Please change ODD to ADHD. </p><p></p><p>As for why the worker did what she did? She gets power from it. It wasn't done to help J or you. It was done to show how wonderful she is to have dealt with this child that you are 'always' "allowing" to misbehave and how put upon she is by him and how wonderful she is to tolerate having him in her presence. It serves no useful purpose other than to make herself feel like a bigger and better person by making both you and J feel bad. </p><p></p><p>I hope tomorrow is a better day. I would follow Marg's suggestions because they stand the best chance to forge a working relationship with the child minder(s)</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 565322, member: 1233"] I would be VERY hesitant to introduce the term ODD in reference to J. France seems to be stuck in the thought that kids choose to behave in ways that are not what is expected/desired of them, rather than to have reached the conclusion that kids do well [I]when they can[/I]. Giving them something that pretty much says that he is doing this because he wants to will backfire hugely. Of course I know and you know that ODD isn't just a simple choice a child makes. I don't think that this is widely recognized in France. Simply having the terms oppositional and defiant applied to J will likely gain a LOT of backlash etc.. Please change ODD to ADHD. As for why the worker did what she did? She gets power from it. It wasn't done to help J or you. It was done to show how wonderful she is to have dealt with this child that you are 'always' "allowing" to misbehave and how put upon she is by him and how wonderful she is to tolerate having him in her presence. It serves no useful purpose other than to make herself feel like a bigger and better person by making both you and J feel bad. I hope tomorrow is a better day. I would follow Marg's suggestions because they stand the best chance to forge a working relationship with the child minder(s) [/QUOTE]
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