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<blockquote data-quote="SearchingForRainbows" data-source="post: 237927" data-attributes="member: 3388"><p>Mstang,</p><p></p><p>THANK YOU!!! You have expressed my feelings so perfectly!!! Last night, I cried myself to sleep. I'VE HAD It!!! I'm so physically and emotionally drained from taking care of difficult children... </p><p></p><p>difficult child 1, for lots of reasons, knows he must move out after he graduates from high school in June. I have done everything humanly possible to try and give him the tools he needs to be an independent, happy, productive adult. difficult child 1 thinks he is above everyone else, society's rules don't apply to him. He has grandiose notions of having the perfect job, perfect life, etc. without having to lift a finger. In his distorted reality, the world revolves around him. The only way he'll learn about life is if he is "thrown" into it. OUT HE GOES!!!</p><p></p><p>on the other hand, difficult child 2 is incapable of taking care of himself. He is almost 17 and needs assistance with just about everything. I feel like I'm taking care of an overgrown toddler. difficult child 2 only sees the world from his point of view. He is extremely self-centered and demanding. He never stops talking, tantrums frequently, is verbally abusive, and although I don't like admitting this, most of the time I can't stand being around him!!! It is exhausting!!! I don't feel like I can toss him out, but at the same time, I can't stand the thought of having him live in my house indefinitely. </p><p></p><p>I'm doing everything I can to try to help him be as successful in life as possible. However, the reality of the situation is that he is going to need many supports in place in order for him to be able to survive on his own. I feel that I deserve a life - A life separate from his.</p><p></p><p>I WILL do everything possible to try and find him another place to live. I have to do this because I know my sanity is at stake. And, if the reality is that he can't survive out of my house, what do I do next? </p><p></p><p>I honestly don't believe that my only purpose in life is to take care of an adult difficult child. However, where do we draw the line? WE ARE PEOPLE TOO!!! Sorry, I haven't answered your question - Just kind of tossed it around... It is so difficult... Thinking of you... WFEN</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SearchingForRainbows, post: 237927, member: 3388"] Mstang, THANK YOU!!! You have expressed my feelings so perfectly!!! Last night, I cried myself to sleep. I'VE HAD It!!! I'm so physically and emotionally drained from taking care of difficult children... difficult child 1, for lots of reasons, knows he must move out after he graduates from high school in June. I have done everything humanly possible to try and give him the tools he needs to be an independent, happy, productive adult. difficult child 1 thinks he is above everyone else, society's rules don't apply to him. He has grandiose notions of having the perfect job, perfect life, etc. without having to lift a finger. In his distorted reality, the world revolves around him. The only way he'll learn about life is if he is "thrown" into it. OUT HE GOES!!! on the other hand, difficult child 2 is incapable of taking care of himself. He is almost 17 and needs assistance with just about everything. I feel like I'm taking care of an overgrown toddler. difficult child 2 only sees the world from his point of view. He is extremely self-centered and demanding. He never stops talking, tantrums frequently, is verbally abusive, and although I don't like admitting this, most of the time I can't stand being around him!!! It is exhausting!!! I don't feel like I can toss him out, but at the same time, I can't stand the thought of having him live in my house indefinitely. I'm doing everything I can to try to help him be as successful in life as possible. However, the reality of the situation is that he is going to need many supports in place in order for him to be able to survive on his own. I feel that I deserve a life - A life separate from his. I WILL do everything possible to try and find him another place to live. I have to do this because I know my sanity is at stake. And, if the reality is that he can't survive out of my house, what do I do next? I honestly don't believe that my only purpose in life is to take care of an adult difficult child. However, where do we draw the line? WE ARE PEOPLE TOO!!! Sorry, I haven't answered your question - Just kind of tossed it around... It is so difficult... Thinking of you... WFEN [/QUOTE]
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