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<blockquote data-quote="mstang67chic" data-source="post: 238169" data-attributes="member: 2459"><p>Wow.</p><p></p><p>Guess I'm not alone in these feelings, huh? LOL</p><p></p><p>Some of you mentioned independant living situations with supervision (group homes, assisted living, etc.). Personally, for my difficult child, that would be IDEAL. He would have some independance but also have the security of people helping him with his budget, seeing that he takes his medications and teaching him the things he needs to know to live on his own. (renting a place, deposits, setting up a bank account, getting utilities turned on, etc.) Really that is all he needs. There are even homes in this area that I'm sure he would qualify for and be able to get into. But...will he do it? Nope. He won't do it for the same reason he quit Voc. Rehab.....they can't teach him anything because he already knows how to do it. Yet, when he was job hunting before his one and only job (that he quit...or rather just stopped going to), he needed husband or I to be there to help him fill out the application.</p><p></p><p>I helped him open a savings account when he got his first check. We discussed a good way to budget....determine what he needs to "live" on until the next paycheck, keep that out and then deposit the rest. He did great for the first two checks. After that he was the life of the party....bought himself stuff, took his friends out for dinner, bought THEM stuff. Funny though...now that he doesn't have a job or money, I don't hear word one about these friends. Go figure.</p><p></p><p>As long as I have "his" kind of food in the house, he's happy. (Well that and I don't keep on him to do his few chores. 'Cause you know....it's NEVER his turn to do the dishes.) husband literally just walked in the door and I haven't started supper yet. No point because difficult child won't eat whatever we cook most of the time and I would rather wait to see what husband wants. He'll eat if I order a pizza or bring home McD's but otherwise, most of the time it's pot pies, pork fritters or chicken patties. </p><p></p><p>**Side note <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/Graemlins/rofl.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":rofl:" title="rofl :rofl:" data-shortname=":rofl:" /> husband told me to call his cell phone so he could "show" me the ringtone he has assigned to me. *snort* It's Animal by Nickleback. (And if you search for the song online if you don't know it...I wouldn't play it with the kidlets around. Ahem.)</p><p></p><p>Aaaaanyway....so yeah. I'm glad I'm not the only one feeling trapped in my own home. I just wish there was SOMETHING we could do to light a fire under this kid's backside. He's on his second try at his senior year (super seniors they call them) although I think some of his classes are from back as far as 9th or 10th grade. husband wants to get him through high school (and I do too) and thinks we can hang on till then but I tell you now.....come summer....the boy either better have that flame burning brightly or the money to buy a good tent.</p><p></p><p>Or maybe I'LL buy a good tent and go live in Janna's back yard.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="mstang67chic, post: 238169, member: 2459"] Wow. Guess I'm not alone in these feelings, huh? LOL Some of you mentioned independant living situations with supervision (group homes, assisted living, etc.). Personally, for my difficult child, that would be IDEAL. He would have some independance but also have the security of people helping him with his budget, seeing that he takes his medications and teaching him the things he needs to know to live on his own. (renting a place, deposits, setting up a bank account, getting utilities turned on, etc.) Really that is all he needs. There are even homes in this area that I'm sure he would qualify for and be able to get into. But...will he do it? Nope. He won't do it for the same reason he quit Voc. Rehab.....they can't teach him anything because he already knows how to do it. Yet, when he was job hunting before his one and only job (that he quit...or rather just stopped going to), he needed husband or I to be there to help him fill out the application. I helped him open a savings account when he got his first check. We discussed a good way to budget....determine what he needs to "live" on until the next paycheck, keep that out and then deposit the rest. He did great for the first two checks. After that he was the life of the party....bought himself stuff, took his friends out for dinner, bought THEM stuff. Funny though...now that he doesn't have a job or money, I don't hear word one about these friends. Go figure. As long as I have "his" kind of food in the house, he's happy. (Well that and I don't keep on him to do his few chores. 'Cause you know....it's NEVER his turn to do the dishes.) husband literally just walked in the door and I haven't started supper yet. No point because difficult child won't eat whatever we cook most of the time and I would rather wait to see what husband wants. He'll eat if I order a pizza or bring home McD's but otherwise, most of the time it's pot pies, pork fritters or chicken patties. **Side note :rofl: husband told me to call his cell phone so he could "show" me the ringtone he has assigned to me. *snort* It's Animal by Nickleback. (And if you search for the song online if you don't know it...I wouldn't play it with the kidlets around. Ahem.) Aaaaanyway....so yeah. I'm glad I'm not the only one feeling trapped in my own home. I just wish there was SOMETHING we could do to light a fire under this kid's backside. He's on his second try at his senior year (super seniors they call them) although I think some of his classes are from back as far as 9th or 10th grade. husband wants to get him through high school (and I do too) and thinks we can hang on till then but I tell you now.....come summer....the boy either better have that flame burning brightly or the money to buy a good tent. Or maybe I'LL buy a good tent and go live in Janna's back yard. [/QUOTE]
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