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<blockquote data-quote="hearts and roses" data-source="post: 253110" data-attributes="member: 2211"><p><span style="font-family: 'Century Gothic'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: darkslateblue">Thanks everyone. I just want to say that I know I'm not 'done'. I know some people who go to therapy or work a 12 step program and at some point, they think "Okay, cool, I'm done. Now I can get on with life". I was one of those people. I realize now that it's an ongoing lesson in humility and strength - how it tests your will power! Years of ingrained behaviors having to be altered and kept in check daily!! As I continue to practice each day, I am hoping it will become easier to step away from any given situation, take a breath, and evaluate just how much I should or should not be involved.</span></span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-family: 'Century Gothic'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: darkslateblue">There was a crisis with my Godson (S) yesterday. Some of you may recall he works with me (his dad, my brother in law, is our boss) and his father is trying to groom him for the business - but S has no interest, but he feels obligated somehow. Anyway, at times the fireworks fly. S's parent's have always been in a sort of denial about thier son being a major difficult child, with fairly severe depression issues. He confides in me and has told me that his psychiatrist has diagnosis'ed him as being bi-polar and he's on medications for it. He also recently admitted to being addicted to painkillers and other downers and started going to NA. I'm so proud of him and I continue to be supportive of his efforts. Yesterday, he didn't come to work and his father who was traveling was trying to track him down and when he found him, he yelled and berated him, said some rotten things. Afterwards, S called me and vented, which is fine. But he told me such horrible things about my sister and brother in law's behaviors and attitudes towards him. S doesn't feel loved or supported in any way. He said when he told them about his addictions and NA that they played it down and didn't believe he was an addict. It's very involved and sad for me to hear. And it would have been very easy to get sucked in. </span></span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-family: 'Century Gothic'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: darkslateblue">So, on my path to recovery and detachment, I have learned that I need to figure out where the line is between caring (being a good listener) and becoming involved in other's people's stuff! Thankfully, my Godson did say, "Aunt Jo, I know this has nothing to do with you and I'm sorry. I need to call my sponser and go to a meeting", so I hope he went. I wanted so badly to call him last night but I stopped myself. I'me very concerned for him because he was crying and saying things like if he died no one would even notice. </span></span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-family: 'Century Gothic'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: #483d8b">Anyway, thanks so much for the support. Stay strong. I'm trying. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /></span></span></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="hearts and roses, post: 253110, member: 2211"] [FONT=Century Gothic][SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslateblue]Thanks everyone. I just want to say that I know I'm not 'done'. I know some people who go to therapy or work a 12 step program and at some point, they think "Okay, cool, I'm done. Now I can get on with life". I was one of those people. I realize now that it's an ongoing lesson in humility and strength - how it tests your will power! Years of ingrained behaviors having to be altered and kept in check daily!! As I continue to practice each day, I am hoping it will become easier to step away from any given situation, take a breath, and evaluate just how much I should or should not be involved.[/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Century Gothic][SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslateblue][/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Century Gothic][SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslateblue]There was a crisis with my Godson (S) yesterday. Some of you may recall he works with me (his dad, my brother in law, is our boss) and his father is trying to groom him for the business - but S has no interest, but he feels obligated somehow. Anyway, at times the fireworks fly. S's parent's have always been in a sort of denial about thier son being a major difficult child, with fairly severe depression issues. He confides in me and has told me that his psychiatrist has diagnosis'ed him as being bi-polar and he's on medications for it. He also recently admitted to being addicted to painkillers and other downers and started going to NA. I'm so proud of him and I continue to be supportive of his efforts. Yesterday, he didn't come to work and his father who was traveling was trying to track him down and when he found him, he yelled and berated him, said some rotten things. Afterwards, S called me and vented, which is fine. But he told me such horrible things about my sister and brother in law's behaviors and attitudes towards him. S doesn't feel loved or supported in any way. He said when he told them about his addictions and NA that they played it down and didn't believe he was an addict. It's very involved and sad for me to hear. And it would have been very easy to get sucked in. [/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Century Gothic][SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslateblue][/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Century Gothic][SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslateblue]So, on my path to recovery and detachment, I have learned that I need to figure out where the line is between caring (being a good listener) and becoming involved in other's people's stuff! Thankfully, my Godson did say, "Aunt Jo, I know this has nothing to do with you and I'm sorry. I need to call my sponser and go to a meeting", so I hope he went. I wanted so badly to call him last night but I stopped myself. I'me very concerned for him because he was crying and saying things like if he died no one would even notice. [/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Century Gothic][SIZE=3][COLOR=#483d8b][/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Century Gothic][SIZE=3][COLOR=#483d8b]Anyway, thanks so much for the support. Stay strong. I'm trying. :winking:[/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [/QUOTE]
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