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<blockquote data-quote="meowbunny" data-source="post: 181681" data-attributes="member: 3626"><p>I used to give my daughter my old laptop and let her watch whatever in her room. If she didn't like watching it on a small screen, she could either earn time to watch it in my room or go over a friend's and watch it there. The family TV was off limits -- it was for things we both agreed to watch or one could use when the other was not home. (TV had been removed from her room when she was about 10 and didn't return until she about 18.)</p><p> </p><p>Personally, I would not destroy the DVD unless I had warned her it was going to happen. To me, it is a matter of honor and trust. I refuse to sneak around my daughter to get what I want (and I'm the one with the issue of her watching the same thing over and over, not her) and "losing" or "damaging" her DVD because I don't like it just doesn't seem right. Once she figured out that I was doing this to her things, she loses some of her trust for me. To me, trust is a big thing and it goes both way -- I may not be able to trust my child but it is important to me that she feel she can trust me. Of course, if she were to watch her movie in the family room outside of the rules, the DVD would be tossed, but she would know it was a consequence and she would know what happened to it. There would be no question.</p><p> </p><p>I don't mean to sound sanctimonious or self-righteous, but this is one thing that has always bothered me -- the willingness by parents to get what they want by going behind their child's back to get it. Yes, it's easier. Yes, it works (at least when they are younger). But that doesn't make it right.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="meowbunny, post: 181681, member: 3626"] I used to give my daughter my old laptop and let her watch whatever in her room. If she didn't like watching it on a small screen, she could either earn time to watch it in my room or go over a friend's and watch it there. The family TV was off limits -- it was for things we both agreed to watch or one could use when the other was not home. (TV had been removed from her room when she was about 10 and didn't return until she about 18.) Personally, I would not destroy the DVD unless I had warned her it was going to happen. To me, it is a matter of honor and trust. I refuse to sneak around my daughter to get what I want (and I'm the one with the issue of her watching the same thing over and over, not her) and "losing" or "damaging" her DVD because I don't like it just doesn't seem right. Once she figured out that I was doing this to her things, she loses some of her trust for me. To me, trust is a big thing and it goes both way -- I may not be able to trust my child but it is important to me that she feel she can trust me. Of course, if she were to watch her movie in the family room outside of the rules, the DVD would be tossed, but she would know it was a consequence and she would know what happened to it. There would be no question. I don't mean to sound sanctimonious or self-righteous, but this is one thing that has always bothered me -- the willingness by parents to get what they want by going behind their child's back to get it. Yes, it's easier. Yes, it works (at least when they are younger). But that doesn't make it right. [/QUOTE]
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